What's up? I'm new to the DJ message boards, but I'm no stranger to the theories practiced (I've already read/studied David DeAngelo's book which is pretty much the same as the articles on this site). I was hoping I could get some questions answered about the girl I'm currently pursuing.
Here's the background:
We went to H.S together and had one class together. Now we talked/teased a little in this class but I NEVER crossed the friendship barrier, and frankly I didn't have an insatiable urge to pursue her in HS.
We end up going to the same school and I see her the second day in the cafeteria line. Long story short: she blossomed over the summer. Big time. So we make small talk "oh hi, how are you" etc. and I walk through line and sit down at an empty table in plain site assuming she'll sit down and want to catch up.
Well, she walks by me, and I mean less than five feet away, and sits at another table *directly in my line of view* with another guy. I was kinda shocked at first and thought "wow, she doesn't wanna catch up? It's been three months."
Then I thought about the possibility of her just trying to make me jealous and that was pretty much confirmed the next day when me and a pal were walking along and we bumped into her. She was EXTREMELY open and all smiles, acting as if she didn't completely snuff me the day before. I acted indifferent and aloof in a "hard to get" way, teasing her and kind of rushed the convo, swapped mobile #'s with her and moved on.
Well the next day she calls, once again very "happy" and asks if I want to eat lunch with her. I tell her no that I'm busy (hard to get, plus I needed my cat nap
) but I'll meet her later for dinner.
She calls ten minutes before we planned to meet to make sure I'm coming and I teased her about it and moved on. Now here is the part that confuses me:
I'm assuming at this point that she is interested and wants me to pursue her. So I go to dinner ready to get my game on and then the worst thing happens. . . she brings her ROOMMATE!!! Now this is very disarming to me because I always have worked on girls one on one. Nevertheless I made the best of it and teased/flirted with her and dismissed myself a little early. I was still intent on the pursuit so I planned on not calling her for a few days to build her anticipation of our next meeting.
Today she snuck up on me after I got out of class and gave me a playful punch on the arm and a "what's up" We talked as we walked toward our respective dorms and the flirting intensity increased. There was a little sexual innuendo and we each discussed why we though penises/vaginas were superior and I kept teasing. I think she even threw the "relationship" word out there while we were arguing that penises/vaginas made men/women superior.
Anyhow, here's my questions:
I know women send mixed messages, but why the hell is she sending so many? She snuffs me, flirts with me next time I see her, says "I really want to talk to you", she brings her roomie along when she gets the chance, then the next time I see her she's playful and flirtatious again. Should I worry that she's two-faced? or is she just trying to make me want her more? I believe the latter but a second opinion would help me out psychologically.
My plan is to find out once and for all. I plan on calling her over to my dorm real quick one evening, then just taking her straight to the pool hall for a "date" if you will, administering kino and teasing/flirting then going for the kiss later that night. Any refresher courses on kino and going for the first kiss would be HIGHLY appreciated from you guys.
Bottom line; this girl is soooooo hot. I must have her.
-Drewgie
P.S. Any advice on sex at college (other than 'it aint a party without a balloon)? I think the biggest problem is getting in my/her room while the roommates are out, although she's in a suite with an individual room so maybe I can get her hot enough for an invite up
Here's the background:
We went to H.S together and had one class together. Now we talked/teased a little in this class but I NEVER crossed the friendship barrier, and frankly I didn't have an insatiable urge to pursue her in HS.
We end up going to the same school and I see her the second day in the cafeteria line. Long story short: she blossomed over the summer. Big time. So we make small talk "oh hi, how are you" etc. and I walk through line and sit down at an empty table in plain site assuming she'll sit down and want to catch up.
Well, she walks by me, and I mean less than five feet away, and sits at another table *directly in my line of view* with another guy. I was kinda shocked at first and thought "wow, she doesn't wanna catch up? It's been three months."
Then I thought about the possibility of her just trying to make me jealous and that was pretty much confirmed the next day when me and a pal were walking along and we bumped into her. She was EXTREMELY open and all smiles, acting as if she didn't completely snuff me the day before. I acted indifferent and aloof in a "hard to get" way, teasing her and kind of rushed the convo, swapped mobile #'s with her and moved on.
Well the next day she calls, once again very "happy" and asks if I want to eat lunch with her. I tell her no that I'm busy (hard to get, plus I needed my cat nap
) but I'll meet her later for dinner. She calls ten minutes before we planned to meet to make sure I'm coming and I teased her about it and moved on. Now here is the part that confuses me:
I'm assuming at this point that she is interested and wants me to pursue her. So I go to dinner ready to get my game on and then the worst thing happens. . . she brings her ROOMMATE!!! Now this is very disarming to me because I always have worked on girls one on one. Nevertheless I made the best of it and teased/flirted with her and dismissed myself a little early. I was still intent on the pursuit so I planned on not calling her for a few days to build her anticipation of our next meeting.
Today she snuck up on me after I got out of class and gave me a playful punch on the arm and a "what's up" We talked as we walked toward our respective dorms and the flirting intensity increased. There was a little sexual innuendo and we each discussed why we though penises/vaginas were superior and I kept teasing. I think she even threw the "relationship" word out there while we were arguing that penises/vaginas made men/women superior.
Anyhow, here's my questions:
I know women send mixed messages, but why the hell is she sending so many? She snuffs me, flirts with me next time I see her, says "I really want to talk to you", she brings her roomie along when she gets the chance, then the next time I see her she's playful and flirtatious again. Should I worry that she's two-faced? or is she just trying to make me want her more? I believe the latter but a second opinion would help me out psychologically.
My plan is to find out once and for all. I plan on calling her over to my dorm real quick one evening, then just taking her straight to the pool hall for a "date" if you will, administering kino and teasing/flirting then going for the kiss later that night. Any refresher courses on kino and going for the first kiss would be HIGHLY appreciated from you guys.
Bottom line; this girl is soooooo hot. I must have her.
-Drewgie
P.S. Any advice on sex at college (other than 'it aint a party without a balloon)? I think the biggest problem is getting in my/her room while the roommates are out, although she's in a suite with an individual room so maybe I can get her hot enough for an invite up