Check it out, I met this girl from myspace last friday at Starbucks and meetin turned out well. She touched me couple times and she was laughin and smilin the whole time. I decided to wait till yesterday to call for the first real date. however, she emailed me on Saturday tellin me how good of a time we had. I decided to respond over the phone(better to ask out over the phone than in email) and asked her for the date tommorrow and that id pick her tommorrrow afternoon. She said sure and told me where she stayed at.. However, did I mess up by askin way too in advance? She hasn't called back or emailed to confirm anythin so does that mean she might have forgotten bout tommorrow?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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- Thread starter LADawg49
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
shes probably as nervous as you are, she prob is thinking the same thing ur thinking now, if she said shure or sumthing when u asked her out, then relax, if ur really insecure, call her up and say ur gonna be about 20 minutes late cuz u have to do a thing , drive your sis, make something up...
themanwithnoname
Senior Don Juan
no you didn't mess up, this myspace chick probably has 2-3 other guys lined up for her, so get her quick.
u r right theman, she could easily have 2-3 guys after her. However, if anythin in this case, challenge would be my best friend because she will wonder why im not so eager like the other guys.
Heres how it went, I call her, ask whats up? then I say, "Lets go to hamburger spot near your work and for ice cream, be ready at noon. Where u be at?" She told me where she lives and to call her when I get there(she lives in an apartment).. So I would assume that is a yes, if im not mistaken and not to worry.
Heres how it went, I call her, ask whats up? then I say, "Lets go to hamburger spot near your work and for ice cream, be ready at noon. Where u be at?" She told me where she lives and to call her when I get there(she lives in an apartment).. So I would assume that is a yes, if im not mistaken and not to worry.
Hey all I did go on the date with her,we went for hamburgers and ice cream(spent a lil less than 20 dollars). we were playful with each other and after ice cream, I told her to practice her massagin skillls on me. so she did that while i wuz whisperin to her a lot. I didn't go for any kiss cause i wanted to build the anticipation, then she had me lay on her stomach and then kissed me on the nose. I said jokingly, "ouch that hurts, cure me!" then she laughed and started kissin me on the lips.. I teased her by saying that im very shy and shes goin too fast. She playfully said, aww im sorry. So i jokingly said, that means u get to go faster and faster, and we started makin out. After that I walked her home, and she gave me a hug and a kiss and told me to have fun with my friends on the weekend. What should I do from here? Im thinkin of waitin 5-9 days to call her and ask her out
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sounds like you did great. She has high interest in you so I would call her after 4-5 days. Excellent C&F by the way, you played it just right.Originally posted by LADawg49
Hey all I did go on the date with her,we went for hamburgers and ice cream(spent a lil less than 20 dollars). we were playful with each other and after ice cream, I told her to practice her massagin skillls on me. so she did that while i wuz whisperin to her a lot. I didn't go for any kiss cause i wanted to build the anticipation, then she had me lay on her stomach and then kissed me on the nose. I said jokingly, "ouch that hurts, cure me!" then she laughed and started kissin me on the lips.. I teased her by saying that im very shy and shes goin too fast. She playfully said, aww im sorry. So i jokingly said, that means u get to go faster and faster, and we started makin out. After that I walked her home, and she gave me a hug and a kiss and told me to have fun with my friends on the weekend. What should I do from here? Im thinkin of waitin 5-9 days to call her and ask her out