"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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alnite

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OK, there is this girl who always come to my room. My roommate, her, and I usually chat and watch TV, bull****ing. First, she hated my roommate because he was such an *******. Saying things that everybody knows is a lie. He said something, then five minutes later he said he didn't say it. Girls hate that.

So anyway, this happened last semester. At the end of that semester, after my roommate left for christmas break, we were sort of alone, and we got pretty close. She paid for my lunch, we hug on her bed. Then, I had to back up and I had my own reason to do that (but I didn't tell her). Then I left for my break and said her goodbye over the phone (she wasn't in her room when I knocked on her door).

New semester started. All fresh and stuff. First she was kind of back flirty to me, but I wasn't being a DJ, I didn't throw any C&F comment, because I was just depressed at that time. Basically for the first couple of days, I was being a total beta guy.

Now, I know she is desperate of sex and a boyfriend. And you know, she flirted with my roommate now. I know she hated him, but now for some reason she would just laugh for everything he said and ignoring me (not totally but I could tell the difference). And one day, I was sleeping, and they both were watching TV, and she made fun of the way I slept (as if now she hated me or something). And the cues she is giving to my roommate is much more obvious than the one she gave to me.

She wasn't really my type. But I need to do something to this. It's just getting annoying day by day. I am planning to talk to her about this, not in a wuss way. I am not afraid of loosing her, but I need that clarification why she's doing it.

What do you guys think? Should I pretend nothing happen and play it dumb. Or should I talk to her and everything clear. Or should I just find another girl (either way, her flirts still bother me).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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tmpgstx

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She loves to hate him, see the difference between you and he? He's creating tension, and you're giving her hugs on your bed.

It may already be a lost cause for you with this girl now, but if you really want her, start chatting up other girls and let her see it.
 

Andromax

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Man, if you want her to lose whatever respect she had for you then go and "have that talk with her, because you are afraid to lose her."


It seems to me, that you are just a little jealous of your roommate and that inspired you to have some sort of "feelings" for her. You said she is 1) Not your type. NEXT. 2) You had reasons for NOT putting the moves on her and nailing her. NEXT.

Why are you going back to a chick that you missed your window with?

Sure you could try to salvage something from this, but it seems to me that if you go down that road, you are fueling a fire of indecision and "little heart to heart chats with a girl about your relationship" that always end in disaster for you.


You dont want to hear this, but next her bro. You rejected her in the first place by not wanting her, stick to your decision. You wont "lose" her as a friend if you just dont sweat it, dont mention it, and for gods sake dont freakin bring it up to her in a mushy convo.


Thats all I can say...
 

alnite

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Ah crap, you guys are right. I don't know what's happening to me. I lost all my game after this christmas. Thanks for the advice, I'll just next her and consider her for my roommate.

I'll reread the bible.

TO mod: sorry I posted in the wrong forum, I just realized it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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