need advice

[ToP DoN]

Hey guys I need your help..ive been with a girl for about a year and a half and right now she has a lot of things on her plate…we have a long distance relationship and now she says she wants space …she says im pressuring her too much…and I think it is me cause I ask too many questions and looking for certainty…first she said lets take a break and then I said no I don’t believe in that lets just break up…so now we are broken up but she calls me and stuff and we are supposed to hang this weekend …I promised her and I don’t want to but Ive already committed so I don’t look like I go back on my word….she wants to remain friends and says she wants to be with me at times and at times she says she doesn’t…im confused and im tired of trying to figure out what she wants to do…I guess im looking for some kind of certainty between me and her…she says she wont know if she would get back with me until the end of this year…I don’t want to wait around be AFC….i want to get this over with if it is over and I want to know…but she keeps calling and talking …she says she wont call me anymore if I don’t want her to…what do u think I should do guys…give me some explanations and techniques cause im out of them and im tired of trying to figure them out…

 

[Bungo Pony]

Originally posted by ToP DoN
we have a long distance relationship and now she says she wants space

That's funny! You've got distance between you and her already, and she needs more? I'd tell her to move to China LOL!

so now we are broken up but she calls me and stuff

And you still talk to her? First of all, LDRs don't work. Second, being friends with a girl you've been dating doesn't work. You'll keep on emotionally torturing yourself while she's telling you about the current guy she's dating/fvcking.

and we are supposed to hang this weekend …I promised her and I don’t want to but Ive already committed so I don’t look like I go back on my word….

So you don't want to hurt the poor girl's feelings. She's dragging you along on a leash, and you're ever faithfully following her along. Do you really want to be her cute little puppy dog?

she wants to remain friends

I saw that coming

im tired of trying to figure out what she wants to do…

So, why don't you try figuring out what YOU want to do? You're only going to confuse yourself more. She already knows that she doesn't want to have a relationship with you. When you get the "friends" line, it's all over. Don't bow down to her wants, because you're not going to get her back my kissing her ass.

I guess im looking for some kind of certainty between me and her

Oh, that one's easy. She's certain she wants to date other people. You're certain she'll change her mind if you kiss her ass enough. Open your eyes, the relationship is finished. Help it die by cutting her out of your life.

i want to get this over with if it is over and I want to know…

Well now you know it's over because I told you. When you get the "friends" line, a woman is basically saying "I don't want to date you anymore, but I'll let you suffer and I hope you come to your senses".

she says she wont call me anymore if I don’t want her to…

She's giving you a hint; stand up, be a man, and tell her to fvck off. That's the only technique you need.

 

[WaterTiger]

First of all, the "let's just be friends", and "let's take a break" is a girls way of saying NEXT! We just feel bad about hurting you feelings so we think it's easier for you to "ease" you out of the relationship slowly, let you get used to the idea.

MAJOR TIP: Women think about our relationships 90% of our time. How's it going? WHERE is it going? Will he cheat on me? By the time we say: "I think we should take a break", she's already thought up 197 reasons to sever the tie.

Second of all, DUDE! YOU'RE IN SAN FRANCISCO!!!! 30% of the men in this town are GAY! The women in this town are SAVAGE in the competiton for straight men....you got a good job? POW! there's 10 more points! Get out there! SOMA has tons of clubs full of hot babes looking for YOU!! Hell, if you were 10 years older, I'd be PMing you with my phone number!

 

[Walden]

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