need advice

[smoothtalker72]

i've been talking to this girl for a couple of months now. we work together. at first i didnt even know her, didnt care to know her and i didnt even know her name. then out of the blue she starts trying to get my attention. first it was little things like offering to pick me up something while she was out to lunch (still didnt know her name). which progressed to light flirting (playfully tossing things at me to get my attention). then she went out of her way to look for my myspace page. i know she actually looked for it because i dont know any of her friends and she doesnt know any of mine. we also go to different schools in different towns.

anyway we talked back and forth there. at first i only vaguely remembered her name. i had to rack my brain to remember it. i told her i was kinda sore from playing hockey that day and she says something like "i could fix that for you" so i say to her "well you'll have to show me how sometime" (i dont know why, it was just the first thing that came to mind. we'd have little conversations for almost everyday for the following couple of weeks.

then one night at work she asks to borrow my phone because hers isnt working. i did but when i got it back i found out that instead of using it she put her number into it. i didnt use it for a few weeks but one night i was bored at work so i sent her a short text message. from that night on she was texting me every day which i didnt really mind because i was actually starting to like her. the texts were usually something involving sex but we also got to know eachother a little better. one night we just had a question and answer period just to find out about each other's interests. anyway about a week after all of this started i wanted to get her out on a date because i was really interested in her and wanted to just hang out with her. she told me she was really busy at that current time because of sports and school which i can understand so i told her to let me know when she was free (yea i know mistake). when the day that i had originally asked her out for came up i called her to find out whether she was available or not. she didnt pick up so i left message telling her to call me back, she didnt. i sent her a text the next day just to see what was up and she mentions the message, i didnt ask her why she didnt pick up but i was wondering why she never called back even after listening to the message. i saw her at work that weekend and everything was as it was before. still talked and flirted alot. two weeks later i decided to call her and ask her out again only this time i planned to do it a week ahead of time so that she wouldnt make plans. i called and she didnt answer again, but this time i sent a text message right after which she did respond to. she said that she couldnt talk at the moment. i asked her out in a text instead and she tells me that she has plans for that day and the following day.

fast forward to last weekend. we were at work and another guy that i work with was talking about his girlfriend. she knows the guy but didnt know he had a girlfriend so she asks him "you have a girlfriend?" he says "yea, do you have a boyfriend?". her answer was "not really but im talking to someone" and she names some other guy. i was kind of at a loss for words. i didnt say anything, i just left.

i spent the rest of the day pissed off. i kinda felt like she was playing games with me. i guess you can say that i dont know what to do now. what does anyone else think of my situation?

 

[smoothtalker72]

my mind is a bit clearer now that i got that off my chest. but now that im thinking clearer i realize that i can treat this situation one of two ways. one i could take it as a competition and just put that much more effort into gaming this girl. two i can just drop her all together and give up on her. id really appreciate anyones advice here.

 

[ARrocket]

I would stop worrying about her. She's not interested right now, for whatever reason. Something happened. Don't agonize yourself over worrying about what it was either.

Start focusing on other girls, and continue the flirting with this girl. But no more calling or texting, and no more asking her out on dates. Make her come back to you. But don't hold your breath.

 

[Triple T]

Just go back to the very begining where she was really interested in you and went out of her way for you.

I would just stop giving her attention if I were you.
She'd start missing you and then BAM! guess what? shes back at you.

Game other chicks too, forget about this one until it drives her crazy

 

[smoothtalker72]

that sounds like a good idea. right now i cant get her off my mind so ignoring her is probly best. its as if she actually LIKES it when she doesnt have someone's full attention.