"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Need advice

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nightwing

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BKaz said:
I've been practicing random ****y and funny skills on e-mail...
This convo seemed to be going well but after my last mail no reply.
Can someone tell me what I'm doing right/wrong here?

The following is an e-mail convo:

Me: So you really want to meet me huh. I don't know.....
When's a good time for you?

Her: haha nice try! well, sara and i decided that if i get a weekend day off work then we'll go visit joe, and then we could go shopping too. but don't hold your breath, cause i cant guarantee getting the time off before x-mas. i'll let you know if i do... my schedule comes out thrursdays so i can let you know this friday about next weekend.

Me: We'll see. But don't put your work aside just to see me.

Her: hey.. i do work next weekend. but if you want any advice on (blah) don't hesitate. and off topic, i applied to (blah blah)!

Me: Liz, I'm not falling for this 'I just want to help you' bit. You're just trying to pick me up like all the others. Anyway, did you consider blah blah?

Her: haha wow, how many others are there?
yes i am considering blah blah. i'm going to blah blah this week!

Me: You fell for me too hard Liz. Please, control yourself. Johnny Depp's new movie might help.

After this, no reply. What do you reckon is the next move?
Ok Bkaz, let me break it down to you. You need to have yourself a readily available pool of females at your disposal--bottom line. It sounds as if you've put your eggs in one basket with this girl from the way your post sounds and by the way that you're wondering about why she's not replying to your last email. Chicks play "communication games" like that, and I've found that the best way to counter this is to have more chicks that you can date in the event that sh!t like this happens. In addition to that, it will take your mind off of her and make you seem less desparate in her eyes not to mention will help you to care less whether she responds back to your email or not.

The best thing to do after you left your last email is to just not respond back. Focus your energy elsewhere.
 

LostAndConfused

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Nightwing said just about everything, but you also want to wait in between emails to have her mystified at what your doing and why you haven't replied. IMO, you actually could have left her with no replies after she said she'll let you know on friday, until she actually emailed you again on friday. In doing that, you win the communication game that nightwing mentioned. When I text and email girls I'm interested in, sometimes I randomly don't reply to their texts/emails and then they start emailing/texting me again to get responses. Its like the cat and toy method.
 
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