"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dominator86

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I go to a county college, no body lives on campus.. I met this girl at school a week ago, Tuesday. Thursday we both had 4 horus to kill, so we went out, got few drinks, lunch....We talked about the weekend, she waitress's, everyday/nite 5 nites a week, she pays for all her own stuff, car, phone evvertyhing. said she only goes out thurs nite, bc she has no work, and only day she could possibly make it out. I want to bang this chick, i have not talked to her since we had lunch on thurs....I am a good lookin dude, shes about a 7 Should I act like an ******* to her or be that Nice dude..and call her see how shes doing, yada yada yada...... now keep in my, she says she brings a guy that is obsesed with her, out sometimes just so he can buy her drinks, therefore already, maybe being a nice guy to this girl would never get me in the pants
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dominator86

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not too much, but I mean i took her to lunch what else would she think, I wanted her accompany??
 

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If your asking about this at such a simple stage, it doesnt sound like your handling her, or the situation too well.

Assuming things went well at lunch, it might have been a good idea to say at the time 'today was fun, we should hook up again sometime, I'l give you a bell'

Then leave it 3 days or so and ring her up..
 

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Call her now and ask if she has plans thirsday night. If not tell her you going to watch a funny movie and ask if she wants to hang out with you.

She says no, tell her its cool, Ill ask that other girl I know then. Dont tell her anything about her though, ever.


If she says yes, its possible, start flirting with your chick right away. Say her name and say "you smell good." Confidentely. Take her hand. Dont be too pushy, but dont be afraid to say and do things to her.



Now if she says no, look for other girl, and this time flirt with this girl. Make it a goal to learn how to flirt and be good at it. When you dont flirt women think youre a gay.




By the way, Im assuming you going to dial her now or later tonight when you know shes available. If you going to leave a message say "Hi her name; give me a call when you get this; my number is" If you suck over the phone, then dont leave a message. Its best to ask her in person, that way she can see you ARE confident. Anyhow, post here before thursday if she says yes.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Not bad advice from banGbro.

I'd only add, give this 'other' girl a name, it can be the name of any of your female friends. Say ' thats cool, Jennifer sounded like she would be up for going if your busy'

Otherwise she will think your making it up if you say, ' thats cool, I'l take another girl'.
 

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Nice, Thanks that advice is killler.....Sometimes i dont know when to treat girls like trash, or be a nice guy to them.. Treat them like dirt, and they stick like mud... i dont think im going to call her, cause ill prob see her at school this tues.. My question is, Why wold she not call me, or text me? When i met her, i gave her a nickname, she laughed n liked it, next time i saw her, she told me how she told evveryone she works that i gave her a nickname, n how cute it was.....so thats gootaa be a good thing right?
 

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That is flirting, keep it up. This also means on tuesday you going to kino her, hands, upper arms, heck maybe even a kiss.
 
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