"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Up until 2 months ago my gf and I have been going out on dates a lot on weekends(haven't been on one for 3 weeks) and she would always pick up my phone calls every day at the same time during the night. But 2 weeks ago she seemed to not answer them at but call me back later at night or the next day even though she would be on FB looking through posts? I know she's there because of her FB status. I confronted her about that last night and I was about to break up with her about it because I thought she was playing me but I didn't say those 4 words.

I know this isn't very detailed, but it's just a short summary of what's wrong.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Judge Danny steps in the court.
Your princess is in another castle,
Case closed.
 

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Why are you calling her every night? She should be the one calling/chasing you! Don't confront her overtly about this issue, use covert communication ie. withdraw your attention. Sounds like you're too available to her - go ghost for a week - no calls/texts and see if she initiates contact. If she asks you about your scarcity do NOT tell her why, just say you were busy etc..

Take my advice with a grain of salt but it's what I would do based on the info you have given.
 

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go ghost and see what happens, also care less about it, neediness is showing
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alvafe said:
go ghost and see what happens, also care less about it, neediness is showing

Thanks for the advice everyone but I decided to break it off today and I am somewhat regretting that decision because it seemed like she wanted to be in contact yesterday(talked twice on phone) when I called but I didn't receive a call back so that was the last of it even though I felt line I shouldve given her till this week. Broke up with her this morning at her house. I texted her to call me back if she wants to know why we broke but I don't think she cares anymore. Not sure if she'll contact me back but I think it's time to move on.
 

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sammyfs said:
Thanks for the advice everyone but I decided to break it off today and I am somewhat regretting that decision because it seemed like she wanted to be in contact yesterday(talked twice on phone) when I called but I didn't receive a call back so that was the last of it even though I felt line I shouldve given her till this week. Broke up with her this morning at her house. I texted her to call me back if she wants to know why we broke but I don't think she cares anymore. Not sure if she'll contact me back but I think it's time to move on.

serious if you break up stop calling her, and what is that hell for overing to tell her why you break up?

dude you are too needy, the one who should go after you its her not you after YOU break up with her, if anything she can even feel relived you break up with her.

so gonna say this again stop caring too much, and stop calling her, when you break up with someone you don't want to talk with then, you are doing the opose of this and are showing you are insecure on what you want, not a nice trait.
 

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U did the right thing Sammy, it's not easy to get over oneitis, before i discovered game i had severe oneitis and i remember the relationship disintegrating into practically nothing, yet i still refused to break it off first.

One last thing, EVERY one of your ex gf's wants you to be a failure in life. A girls worst nightmare is to see a man that could have been theirs, become successful and live out his dreams. Give substance to that fear.-Pook
 

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You're either a ***** with no self respect and dignity or a troll. In both cases please just gtfo.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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when you do the right thing you have to do the wrong and get back to her, you just apeased her and now she will be the one to break up with you, just wait now.

you are not over her if you was you wouldn't be back with her please, save any last dignity for yourself and tell her, you did a mistake you shouldn't take her back and you are ending now and not turning back, then leave and be happy
 

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Never mind, you guys are right. I'll follow that advice. Thanks for everything.
 
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