So, I met up with my ex a few days ago. We've been broken up since the 1st of this month.
We had a long talk, and I gave her what she needed. She basically needed reassurance, because I never gave it to her. She felt me drifting away, and it was because of comments, she said, that I took really serious. So, she understands that I was scared, and was pulling back emotionally.
Well, we've started talking again, and it seems very loose. She's been hanging out with this other guy, and not sure to what extent, how close they are. I know she's giving him a lot of her time, and attention. I'm just NOT quite sure what's up with them though. As far as I know, they're just friends? I know he's more of a priority in her life though. I'm guessing he's giving her the "attention" that I lacked giving her.
Anyhow. On our last talk, we talked and covered almost everything. I straight up asked her, "look me in the eyes, and tell me you don't want this to work." She started tearing up, and telling me that she couldn't give me an answer. So, that's better then a no, right?
She has stated that she's scared of making me unhappy, and that she feels like she's not "good enough" for me. I am giving her lots of reassurance, that this is not the case. I explained, that I did all that, because of her previous comments, and me pulling back subconsciously. She's just scared, that anything she does, will tick me off, and make me angry. We've known each other for quite some years, even before dating, and she knows that I'm not like that. I told her that I only became this was recently, because of her statements, which led me to be scared, and pull back.
Should I even react to the other guy, or question her about it? Also, what to do, and what NOT to do about her? Give her space? Slowly creep back into her reality? We text VERY seldom, and I have little to no contact with her, but when we chat, usually via AIM, it's very uplifting talks.
We had a long talk, and I gave her what she needed. She basically needed reassurance, because I never gave it to her. She felt me drifting away, and it was because of comments, she said, that I took really serious. So, she understands that I was scared, and was pulling back emotionally.
Well, we've started talking again, and it seems very loose. She's been hanging out with this other guy, and not sure to what extent, how close they are. I know she's giving him a lot of her time, and attention. I'm just NOT quite sure what's up with them though. As far as I know, they're just friends? I know he's more of a priority in her life though. I'm guessing he's giving her the "attention" that I lacked giving her.
Anyhow. On our last talk, we talked and covered almost everything. I straight up asked her, "look me in the eyes, and tell me you don't want this to work." She started tearing up, and telling me that she couldn't give me an answer. So, that's better then a no, right?
She has stated that she's scared of making me unhappy, and that she feels like she's not "good enough" for me. I am giving her lots of reassurance, that this is not the case. I explained, that I did all that, because of her previous comments, and me pulling back subconsciously. She's just scared, that anything she does, will tick me off, and make me angry. We've known each other for quite some years, even before dating, and she knows that I'm not like that. I told her that I only became this was recently, because of her statements, which led me to be scared, and pull back.
Should I even react to the other guy, or question her about it? Also, what to do, and what NOT to do about her? Give her space? Slowly creep back into her reality? We text VERY seldom, and I have little to no contact with her, but when we chat, usually via AIM, it's very uplifting talks.
