"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Need Advice: Want to **** This Woman on Our First Date

Frank2500

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Folks, I need advice. I went clubbing last weekend and just met a woman with a ridiculously big ass. She gave me her phone number (that was on Saturday-I plan on calling her tonight, hopefully it's the right number) after I talked to her outside the club. I didn't get a chance to talk to her inside the club because I thought she was there with some guy...an older white dude with grey hair, he was sticking to her the whole time like a piece of gum on paper. So I didn't get a chance to dance with her.

I want to set up a date with her for Thursday or Friday night so that we could go dancing. But my problem is complicated and I mentioned this a while ago in another post. I live with one of my older brothers and in African culture, it's considered rude and disrespectful for a younger brother to bed a woman while his older brother is at home. My brother works from home and seldom ever goes out...only to the gym in the evenings and that's often only for about two and a half hours. If a woman were to come over in his absence and I was ****ing her, I would be looking at time and rushing to get done so that I don't get caught in the act.

So my question is, and unfortunately, I'm at a double loss here for the following reasons:

1. I don't own a car.

2. The woman probably won't feel comfortable enough with me yet to offer taking me to her own place so we can ****.

3. Most women would feel insulted if you offered to **** them at a hotel.

How then do I get to **** this woman on our first date? I plan to bump and grind with her very well on the dance floor and freak her out to perfection.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how about actually ringing her first and setting up the date? You're getting WAY ahead of yourself planning out the logistics. You don't have to bang her on the first date you know!
 

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Re:

Ok...so if I do get to set up the date and she shows up, (well, I guess it depends on the woman and it's happened to some guys) depending on what kind of vibe I get after we dance and stuff, can I try to **** her then?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's all about building rapport and comfort. If you get her to see you in a sexual light, by flirting and using kino, she'll you your ready to bang. If you handle those two things correctly, you'll be more than happy to invite you over.

I live with one of my older brothers and in African culture, it's considered rude and disrespectful for a younger brother to bed a woman while his older brother is at home.
In Western cultures, (especially in America,) it's considered rude and disrespectful to interfere with your brother's pursuit of getting the nookie.

If you find yourself about to have sex, why don't you use it to your advantage. Say that your brother uses the home as an office, he's a light sleeper, and he begins his day at 6AM. You can't bring the chick to your place because you'll wake up your brother.
 

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Re: She's Probably a Flake

Excellent and creative suggestion there, Maximus Rex. Thanks a lot. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem as if things will work out as I hoped, anyway. She seems to be just another night club chick and probably a flake. Called her two days ago, she picked up and hung up as soon as she heard my voice. Took a chance and called her again several minutes later, the phone rang, and it went to her voice mail. Left a message with my phone number to see if she'll call. She hasn't. Does anyone think it's worth the trouble for me to try calling her again?
 

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Frank2500 said:
Excellent and creative suggestion there, Maximus Rex. Thanks a lot. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem as if things will work out as I hoped, anyway. She seems to be just another night club chick and probably a flake. Called her two days ago, she picked up and hung up as soon as she heard my voice. Took a chance and called her again several minutes later, the phone rang, and it went to her voice mail. Left a message with my phone number to see if she'll call. She hasn't. Does anyone think it's worth the trouble for me to try calling her again?
No dont bother, putting the phone down when she heard your voice, a little odd.

she is either not intrested.

Has a BF in the back ground or some other means.

Also i am confused to why you had to leave your number! A sure indication of high intrest is getting a chic especcially in the club scene to take an intrest in your number also! Or when you take her number ring her cell phone at the same time and say thats my number too, just in case i call and your BF at home, with a sly smile, gauge her reaction.

Anyway, she will phone you if she has a bf there, if she is intrested, but i can say 99.9% this is a wasted opportunity. Maybe you should have escilated this in the club instead of messing about with numbers.

Seems this maybe a situation where high intrest was built at the club and now she may regret the number since she is not in the zone!

There is one + for you she gave you the right number and this is the only thing where i think there maybe a slim chance!

Maybe try her again in a few days! Cant hurt to try, i would not try before then as you would seem desperate.


Also the thing about the brother, you really need to sort something out, this is going to stop you getting laid in more ways then one.

What happens when you out and a chic comes on strong and you have nowhere to take her?

Sort this out! You have to limit excuses in your way and your brother is a huge one that needs sorting out asap. Either move out or talk to your bro, african origin or not your still men and as far as i know men want pus**y if your brother cant get of his a** to get some, cant see why you should suffer, stupid rule tbh.

What if your brother turns out to be gay, your royally fu**ed then, so sort it!
 

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Ha, ha, ha. Good feedback there, Jonwon. Serious advice, but mixed with humor as well. The thing with these night club chicks, though is, sometimes if you wait too long to try calling them again, they might forget who you are. I was thinking about calling her again tonight, since I first tried on Monday. As far as moving out, I'm definitely looking into that. Living where I am currently has been a great obstacle with me in terms of chicks in several ways. I don't mind being in close proximity to my siblings, but I too need to hustle with my own life.
 

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Build your rotation Frank and improve your game. Just because you met a chick in a club, doesn't mean she isn't turned on by the samethings other chicks are.

As far as this girl, it's done. Move on. You need at least 4 or 5 chicks in the rotation for exactly this reason.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Are you a virgin or generally inexperienced with women ? (No disrespect btw)

You ran ZERO game, you didn't dance with her or let alone speak to her. You are FAR off from fvcking her bro...

ONS in a club consist of turning them on but utilizing sexual tension. It starts with dancing where you can touch their 'lovlies' and get them hot, then just get close to them and speak with your lips like an inch or two away from them, go in for the kiss but pull back at last second.... get her juices going and get her wet down under, talk dirty in her ear and dominate her...

Once that sexual tension gets to a point, she's going to pounce on you. Also disregard #'s in a club, they make no sense. Get what you can get as fast as possible, club game centers around STATE...

The club puts EVERYONE in a heightened state. That means if you are happy you are going to be EXTRA happy in the club, if you are drunk you are going to be EXTRA drunk in the club, if you are horny you're going to be EXTRA horny in the club atmosphere... So when you are tooling these females always remember its not always YOU, you're getting help from the club state and well taken out of the club state your game might not be as effective as you thought it was...

Lets just say I got blowie from a girl in a lounge bathroom, and figured I'd fvck her sometime during the week, never heard from her arse again. It's happened too many times, you must bed them FIRST night to be sure. If you walk out of there with a number, 95% chance u'll never hear from her again... ESPECIALLY if you didn't hook up with her...

If you're just speaking with a woman at a club and grab number and leave, I'd suggest throwing that number away. If you've been tounge whipping her all night and got some sexual touching going on and upped that sexual tension, I'd say you've got about 20 - 40% chance of seeing her again... still not good but its better...

You my friend have ZERO chance


-Cod3r
 
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