Need Advice (serious relationship)

[Tminus10]

Hello there.
I've come a long way in the dating world, and I have much to thank this place and it's community for it.

Here's my problem.
Shortly after I met my current girlfriend, it was clear for us we were meant to be.
I guess you could said things were going too fast, but that was never a problem with us.

The problem was me, I lost my way.. stopped taking care of the relationship, stopped putting up a challenge, smothered her, controlled her and many other cringe worthy no-nos.
While I had the best intentions, looking back now I can't understand how this happened and I didn't realize what I was doing sooner, it never happened to me before.


Now that my eyes have been opened, it's like crying wolf.
She's faithful to me, but her interest level is too low.
Low enough to where I don't even get the response I need to show her things will be different.

Trust me, I know everything at this stage points towards letting go and 10/10 times I would just do that.

But I hope to make this woman my wife and be a husband she can be proud of, so I'm here asking if there's a way to climb out of this hole and give me a fighting chance.
Get her interest up enough to show her that I mean this with actions, and not just words.

 

[Tminus10]

Stop giving compliments, flattery, and gifts.

Can do.

Come home from work late every night.

Already do.

Buy yourself new, stylish clothes.

Wouldn't notice much, we don't live together.

Cheat. If she asks, deny. No need to confess to the wife. She’ll be able to smell the competitor vaj juice on you.
After three months of executing the above four points, unexpectedly tell your wife her ass looks great.

Ignoring the fact that we're not married nor living together, I could try to make her jealous (don't want to cheat) but it would be hard for her to notice with her low interest as it is.

To get her to notice I thought of no contact at all for a few days, but I'm worried that would backfire.

 

[origin138]

If her interest level is this low, you're working a serious uphill climb, and your chances of recovery are nil.

She wouldn't notice stylish new clothes on you? How often do you see her?

Get rid of the "meant to be" mindset ASAP. There is no such thing.

You say she's faithful to you, and at the same time her interest level is low. How do you know she's faithful? This translates to "she's looking for my replacement". Rarely is a woman faithful when she has a low interest level.

Right now she's letting you know she's unhappy, and I wouldn't be surprised if she's got a few dudes on the side that she's either banging, or strongly considering it.

Let your actions speak and find a way to deal with your insecurities or they will f*ck up every single encounter you have with women going forward. Mark my words.

P.S. Even if you want to remain faithful to your girl, read PPRF's link. It will definitely get you thinking differently about your situation.

 

[Greasy Pig]

You could ask her what her fvcking problem is and find out what's bugging her. If there's no change in her behaviour, tell her you can't be with her anymore and bounce.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If she has any feelings left for you at all, her attitude will do a 180 when she sees another woman trying to take you away from her.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tminus,
Tell your audience about elastico Bandico,as you pull back she will come closer,attempt to close the gap and she will pull away.....Start spinning Plates,she will get the Idea....Just don't move in with her,if anything cut down the hours you spend with her...Max four nights a week!