"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I'v been dating this girl for 1 5month's today. I love her and want spend the rest of our lives togather. Last night at 1:45 a.m. she calls raving about how she want to be engaded and how her family and friends are talking about it. She says it's more important to her than me and she's having her doubts about if I'm going to propose.
Here's the kicker, I've been looking at rings and was planning on proposing before her 21st B-day (in June) so at her party everyone can find out about the same time. After last night I dodn't what to do because I don't want her to think she can have all her demands for the rest of our lives.
Please give me your advice


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Was going to propose, Gilfriend snapped and said I need to Propose, so Now I'm having doubts!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by FreddyD
I'v been dating this girl for 1 5month's today.
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If she is raving, demanding something as important as marriage after just 1.5 months....do you really think once you propose she'll stop doing that? She'll stop listenig to her girlfriends and mom about what she wants in her life?
 
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Thats what I'm Thinking. Everything was going great, but out of the blue she pops off with this. Yesterday I thought that she listened only to herself, but now I'm not sure
 
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Originally posted by FreddyD
Thats what I'm Thinking. Everything was going great, but out of the blue she pops off with this. Yesterday I thought that she listened only to herself, but now I'm not sure
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Dude, you can diectly ask her about who she listend to: her mom and her girlfriends are the best advisers.
For 21 y.o. girl 1.5 years of LTR is quite a long time really: it is normal for her to think about marriage, but not normal to throw a fit about it.

You gotta be prepared: next step - she is going to cut on sex.. if she already didn't do it.
 
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don't be a sucker

you will be divorced in less then 3 years.
marriage is not for 21 year old BOYS.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm 23 Years Old I've already had my party stage and I'm a prominate businessman in my area. I don't consider myself a boy, but thanks for your advice.
 
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Did you write 1 and a half month or 15 months or a year and a half???

If you have been with her for only 1.5 months then you are both insane!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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One question though FreddyD...

Is this the type of girl you want to spend your whole life with, have kids, drive a minivan ang fech your kids to soccer?

if your answer is yes then take her away from her parents and relatives and settle down.

In that case you wouldn't be noticing unusual after effects, you'll just consider building attraction again and again.

ain't that a happy ending?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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