Need advice please read! Thankyou

[Jamie12345]

Where to start...

After 3 years of been together with my x and living with her for 2 i broke up the relationship and moved out in June 2016.

Since then we have spoken every days and i have stayed over at hers and had sex with her 2-3 nights a week every week since.

Recently ive found out between when we broke up in june 2016 until now she has slept with 4 other blokes (probably more) one of the guys she was seeing for 2 months, the rest it looks like she met on tinder and she invited them back to her place and slept with them the first night she had ever met them in person.

Throughout all the time she was seeing and sleeping with other men which i had no idea about until a few weeks ago as she always said she only want me etc she was also sleeping with me.

The thing is i find it really hard to meet women and she has been only the second serious relationship i have had and i am 35, the first one only lasted 6 months!

I really struggle to meet women, cant even remember the last time i spoke to a woman i didnt know before never mind going on dates etc. Im 35 and still live at home with my mum and dad, i just feel like without seeing her on a night and sleeping with her i wont find anyone else.

All my friends by now are engaged of have kids, ive never once gone into a bar and approached a woman.

Right now with her i dont buy her gifts and when we go out everything is split down the middle so its not like she is taking advantage financially.

If i call it off with her i dont just want to be sat at home on a weekend and on week night sat in my bedroom with nothing to do.

Please advise!!!

 

[WitnessGR]

You already know what to do, you're just not doing it plain and simple. You give so many excuses about your lack of options in a manner that says you understand that the ramifications (or lack thereof) your actions.

Let me ask you this, when is the last time you tried doing the same things you say you don't do?

Maybe you tried 1 thing 1 time, ask any man here for a surefire way/tactic or the secrets to getting women 100% of the time, hell you'd be well off if it even worked half of it.

As long as you keep doing the same things, you will keep getting the same results.

 

[Jamie12345]

Your right, when it comes down it the reason i am seeing her is lack of options.

Its also a bitter pill to swallow when shes been with other guys all this time bedding them the first time shes met them, after her continuously saying i only want you and dont want to be with anyone else. Along with her saying no im not talking to anyone else.

Needless to say ive not been with anyone else.

It also frustrates me that if i call it off she will probably be in bed with some randomer by the weekend and i wont have that option.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Recently ive found out between when we broke up in june 2016 until now she has slept with 4 other blokes (probably more) one of the guys she was seeing for 2 months, the rest it looks like she met on tinder and she invited them back to her place and slept with them the first night she had ever met them in person.

Throughout all the time she was seeing and sleeping with other men which i had no idea about until a few weeks ago as she always said she only want me etc she was also sleeping with me.

How'd you find this out? Did she just come out and tell you or did you do a bit of snooping?

 

[AlphaNate]

You never broke up with her. Do you need us to teach you how to break up with someone?

 

[dude99]

Where to start...

After 3 years of been together with my x and living with her for 2 i broke up the relationship and moved out in June 2016.





The thing is i find it really hard to meet women and she has been only the second serious relationship i have had and i am 35, the first one only lasted 6 months!

I really struggle to meet women, cant even remember the last time i spoke to a woman i didnt know before never mind going on dates etc. Im 35 and still live at home with my mum and dad, i just feel like without seeing her on a night and sleeping with her i wont find anyone else.

Right now with her i dont buy her gifts and when we go out everything is split down the middle so its not like she is taking advantage financially.

If i call it off with her i dont just want to be sat at home on a weekend and on week night sat in my bedroom with nothing to do.

Please advise!!!

You already called it off. Its over. Sounds like you demoted her from girlfriend to plate and now you are regretting doing it. Why did you end it then if you don't want it over.

Either cut bait and move on or deal with her living her life how she choses. You ended it remember?

Read the don juan bible. Go meet new women. You are way to fixated on a girl you suppositly ended it with.

 

[Epicurus]

You think of yourself as someone who isn't worth it. And wonder why you're doing bad with women? The mind is a powerful tool. You're a loser. You behave like a loser and you act like one too. Be the change you want to see.

 

[Jamie12345]

Im not fixated on her, it just comes down to lack of options would i rather be sat at home watching tv in my mum and dads house or round at hers having sex and doing things during the day and night etc