Need advice on something

[dannyme]

Hey guys,

I have been reading this stuff for awhile now and I have really enjoyed the things you guys say. And, I have started using the methods in all situations when meeting new women. This stuff is gold.

However, I am having some difficulty at the moment and would really like to ask for advice.

I’m a 30 year old guy with a great look, great personality. I don’t know why it seems so simple for me to meet women who I do not have high interest level but it’s so difficult for me to get women whom I do.
Recently, I met this new coworker. I was joking around with her, making fun with her in the beginning. We hung out for two times and I started acting like a wuss. I couldn’t stop contacting her through msn or emails. Well, I limited to one msn or two per day. I know that this is stalking behavior and that I should stop and I will. I do believe that this girl know that I am interested by now. I know that you guys advise about not pursuing women and have them pursue you. I am the prize. She still talks to me but only when I see her coming online on msn. Other times, she would be on away or busy.

I know often women don’t like to say no to men because they don’t like to hurt their feelings. But is there a chance to change this situation around where I can increase her interest level? I don't get to see ser much already. I don’t really believe in love nor unconditional love but I do believe that a good companion is what’s important in a relationship. And like a highschool boy, I have this crush on her.. She makes me laugh a lot. And I think this is a vital important ingredient to a long term companionship.

Please advise,

Should I just move on? I know that women sense neediness from miles away. What should I do?


Dan

 

[dannyme]

ok, thank you.

Here is the deal. I met her at work. Great girl, very nice and quiet. I still sense a little immaturity but she makes me laugh a lot. We kept running into each other all day when we met. at first, I didn't really care about her too much because I was using the game and that I want her to come into my world.
When I bumped into her again the 3rd time that day, I was saying, "Are you stalking me?" This was how it all started. She laughed and she started talking to me.
Well, she gave me her msn address and added her. Didn't think nothing of it but just wing it like usual. The very first night, she said she couldn't sleep. And oddly enough, I couldn't neither. So, we chatted until early morning 6 am! She was making me laugh so much I couldn't end the conversation. And so did I I think. So, we talked about hanging out and that I will let be my friends. (Inviting her into my world). And it all seems to work quite well. Until I started acting needy. I wanted more conversations with her. Each time I come home, and I see her online, I dropped a note. If no reply, I dropped another note on her msn. Then, one day, I asked her to go watch a movie together. 40 year old virgin. And that's the thing, I was late for both dates picking her up! But anyhow.
I wanted more again. I called her to see if she's interested in grabbing breakfast the next day. I left a voice message on her machine and then called her again in an hour or so to say that I have to take a raincheck. How about tomorrow.
Well, tomorrow came and I did it again. I left a message at first and then called again to ask her if she still wants to go for breakfast.
I think she got the vibe already.

Now, the problem is when I get needy. I stop asking questions! I stopped getting into her world. I start to talk more about myself and stuff. This is not going well.

I wrote her an email recently to talk about my day to invite her into my world. But she hasn't replied. I do believe that I'm the coyote blowing up in her face. Let me know what you think.

 

[catch]

hey dude,

yeah man, your thinking of her everyday, first of you need to get her of your mind, reason being;

she will sense that you are becoming emotional towards her, if she senses this then she will either forget you(ljbf) or she will start to play you...

dude, heres how to turn the tables...

once your mind is thinking of other things, other girls and you have the will power to walk away from her, then you are back in control, of yourself, if you can control yourself, she cant which puts you in the driving seat...!!

you mentioned something earlier which rung a bell, you said that if you are not that interested in a girl, you find it easier gaming them, right..!??!

i do this alot;
put yourself in the state of mind where your interest in her is rock bottom, be interested in other girls, trust me, she will read this and think, "ooh, no this guys going off me" then you will notice HER making the effort to contact you...
fake it if you have to, just like the old saying goes
hide your interests, show nothing...

and it works even better if you actually convince yourself that shes not all that great anyhow!!

 

[dannyme]

ok, well, at the moment she doesn't seem to care anyway. So I have nothing to lose.

But if I move on, wouldn't that mean that she will also move on?

I say her interest level at the moment is like 5%.

 

[dannyme]

right on bro. I hear ya. thanks

 

[catch]

hey man

you know that you will move on dont you!
next week you forget about her, if a woman finds out that, no matter what she does to you, no matter how she talks to you....and you will always be into her,.... she will use you and treat you like dirt, thats if she doesnt l.j.b.f you..

get her curious about you dude, dont turn into her puppet, turn her into the puppet.

just put it into your mind that your going to move on anyway, then, you can still game this girl, but with no real interest on your part, she will go nuts if you did that! and your oneitus will vanish!

 

[dannyme]

Thanks catch! These words of wisdom is already enough to boost my confidence once again.

 

[dannyme]

****. she got sick and I msn her to hope she get better soon.

Lack of self control man.

what are your thoughts?

 

[dannyme]

question:

Where can I find the whole words to your abbreviations?