Need advice on ltr. Go back or move on?

[seethehoop]

I've been in a ltr for several years. A couple of months back I broke it off. Long story short, I'm not sexually attracted to her any more. I do have very stong feelings but I don't want to have secks with her.

Other than this the relationship is amazing. She is a good women, she respects me, we are great together, we are like best friends but that's where the problem is. We are just like best friends. So my question is, should I be putting so much emphasis on secks or should I be happy with the way things are and make a go of it. Right now I want to try and see if we can work it out.

We still live together at the moment whilst we sort out finances etc so its not exactly been a clean brake. I just feel like I'll regret it later but also if I go back nothing will change.

 

[drellum]

I guess if you can't live without the S** and it means that much to you, you should move on.

Know a few couples where s** is not the priority so not a problem.

I know for me S** has played a big part in the relationship and will in any in the future.

How does the "ex" feel about this?

 

[seethehoop]

I've not exactly said this is the reason. She knows my drive is higher and we did have a convo bout it in the of the beginning of the year where I said it was important to me but I never said I wasn't attracted to her any more. That would crush her.

Thing is it is important to me and I would have to sacrifice this if I was to go back but she doesn't test me, or I pass em when she does. I get my space, I got lots of comfort and compassion. She pretty much worships me, too much if anything. She's just not a secksual being and I am.

May be its my fault, I have failed to make her as secksual as me!

 

[TRSX]

I just did this. Move on. There are many many other women out there for you.

 

[seethehoop]

Yeah. I think I need a clean break.