OK - here's a quick overview of my situation (along with all of the ways I have fvcked up so far - there are many) -
I've known this girl for awhile "as friends" but recently things have ramped up.
Friday night we hung out and made out and went at it pretty hot and heavy on the couch. Then we went out and hung out at a bar with a few friends of mine (she only had one drink so do not think that her behavior later in the evening had anything to do with her being drunk).
After the bar we go back to my place and start going at it again. She is putting up serious ASD - making me work/putting up resistance at each step - (touching breast, undoing bra, taking off shirt, taking off pants, taking off panties, fingering her, etc). Anyway, after about an hour of foreplay I have her naked in my bed and am fingering her hard as she's jerking me off - she is moaning saying how she "wants more" - I get on top of her and try to put it in w/o a condom (fvckup #1) - she immediately stops me and at that point I have to go to damage control (explain to her that I just got caught up in the moment, that I know she is clean and that I know I am clean and then we talk about birth control, etc). Anyway, I manage to rebound from that and about an hour later have her asking for more -again at this point though I'm exhausted and not being a big fan of condom sex I decide not to give her more (fvckup #2). Even though I have condoms sitting in my nightstand drawer I tell her that I don't have "jimmy hats" (I'm a fvcking idiot).
So I talk to her the next day and she invites me to come over - I tell her I have plans so she invites me over for dinner on Sunday. I accept. We make small talk for a bit and I happen to mention jokingly that I stopped at the store and picked up some "jimmys" (fvckup #3 - it gets worse).
So Sunday comes, after dinner we start going at it on the couch. I suggest we move things to the bedroom - we get into the bedroom and quickly are down to our underwear. I make a move to start rubbing her pvssy and BOOM - she decides it's time for us to have a talk. Basically she tells me that she's not ready for sex, that she wants to know me better, that she wants us to be "sexual" but not have sex yet, etc, etc. Then she goes on to say that she wants me to meet her family, friends, etc and that she wants to spend more time with me to know me better before we take that step (I think what she was basically saying was that she doesn't just want it to be something where I go over there once a week just to fvck her - this is actually fine with me as I do like this girl and enjoy spending time with her but I have needs to). Then I proceed to fail the most obvious sh!t test - she kind of jokingly says, "So I hope you don't mind but it's going to be just about me for awhile" or something like that and I reply "I'm not complaining" - (I was fvcking super turned on and not thinking straight) - (fvckup # 4 - I am officialy a moron).
Of course we start going at it again and once I start fingering her real good she grabs my **** and is like "I want to feel you inside of me. - do you have protection with you" Like the complete ass I am instead of saying. "No you cant have it" I say "in my pants pocket" - (fvckup #5) she's like "No, I can't - I want to but I can't -we just talked about this". So anyway, we keep going at it and she gets on top of me and teases me by rubbing the front of her pvssy on and over my c0ck (her juices dripping on my ****, etc).
OK - so I fvcked up royally here (shoulda hit it when I had the chance, failed sh!t tests, I feel like I supplicated, verbalized my intentions, the list goes on...).
Now I'm supposed to go see a basketball game with her this Wednesday. Her friends and family will be there (she wants me to meet them) - afterward I know we will wind up at her house -
any advice on how to undo the mistakes I've made and get into those panties?
Oh another thing I forgot to mention - after we were done fvcking around she made a joke that if I could guess exactly what time it was that she would give me a bl0wjob - of course I guessed wrong. What I didn't realize until afterwards is that she actually WANTED to suck my c0ck and was just waiting for me to tell her to do it. (She told me on Saturday that she enjoys giving bl0wjobs - fvckup #6 - I win chump of the year award).
Lastly, the one thing I will say is that this girl is the closest thing to a virgin that you'll find at age 27. She didn't lose her virginity until age 21 (to her boyfriend of 2 1/2 years! - and they broke up shortly thereafter) - she told me that after that she really had no interest in sex until age 25. (she's also one of those catholic church-going girls who at one point thought that she would wait ntil getting married before having sex, etc). So she is obviously very sheltered and waiting for me(or somebody) to bring her out of her shell. But, she is obviously very concerned about not looking like a slut.
OK - fellow DJs - your input on this matter is greatly appreciated. Also, I hope that my little story serves as an example of what NOT to do in given situations. My only saving grace is that I know this girl really likes me - so I will have a chance to undo some of my wuss-like mistakes.
I've known this girl for awhile "as friends" but recently things have ramped up.
Friday night we hung out and made out and went at it pretty hot and heavy on the couch. Then we went out and hung out at a bar with a few friends of mine (she only had one drink so do not think that her behavior later in the evening had anything to do with her being drunk).
After the bar we go back to my place and start going at it again. She is putting up serious ASD - making me work/putting up resistance at each step - (touching breast, undoing bra, taking off shirt, taking off pants, taking off panties, fingering her, etc). Anyway, after about an hour of foreplay I have her naked in my bed and am fingering her hard as she's jerking me off - she is moaning saying how she "wants more" - I get on top of her and try to put it in w/o a condom (fvckup #1) - she immediately stops me and at that point I have to go to damage control (explain to her that I just got caught up in the moment, that I know she is clean and that I know I am clean and then we talk about birth control, etc). Anyway, I manage to rebound from that and about an hour later have her asking for more -again at this point though I'm exhausted and not being a big fan of condom sex I decide not to give her more (fvckup #2). Even though I have condoms sitting in my nightstand drawer I tell her that I don't have "jimmy hats" (I'm a fvcking idiot).
So I talk to her the next day and she invites me to come over - I tell her I have plans so she invites me over for dinner on Sunday. I accept. We make small talk for a bit and I happen to mention jokingly that I stopped at the store and picked up some "jimmys" (fvckup #3 - it gets worse).
So Sunday comes, after dinner we start going at it on the couch. I suggest we move things to the bedroom - we get into the bedroom and quickly are down to our underwear. I make a move to start rubbing her pvssy and BOOM - she decides it's time for us to have a talk. Basically she tells me that she's not ready for sex, that she wants to know me better, that she wants us to be "sexual" but not have sex yet, etc, etc. Then she goes on to say that she wants me to meet her family, friends, etc and that she wants to spend more time with me to know me better before we take that step (I think what she was basically saying was that she doesn't just want it to be something where I go over there once a week just to fvck her - this is actually fine with me as I do like this girl and enjoy spending time with her but I have needs to). Then I proceed to fail the most obvious sh!t test - she kind of jokingly says, "So I hope you don't mind but it's going to be just about me for awhile" or something like that and I reply "I'm not complaining" - (I was fvcking super turned on and not thinking straight) - (fvckup # 4 - I am officialy a moron).
Of course we start going at it again and once I start fingering her real good she grabs my **** and is like "I want to feel you inside of me. - do you have protection with you" Like the complete ass I am instead of saying. "No you cant have it" I say "in my pants pocket" - (fvckup #5) she's like "No, I can't - I want to but I can't -we just talked about this". So anyway, we keep going at it and she gets on top of me and teases me by rubbing the front of her pvssy on and over my c0ck (her juices dripping on my ****, etc).
OK - so I fvcked up royally here (shoulda hit it when I had the chance, failed sh!t tests, I feel like I supplicated, verbalized my intentions, the list goes on...).
Now I'm supposed to go see a basketball game with her this Wednesday. Her friends and family will be there (she wants me to meet them) - afterward I know we will wind up at her house -
any advice on how to undo the mistakes I've made and get into those panties?
Oh another thing I forgot to mention - after we were done fvcking around she made a joke that if I could guess exactly what time it was that she would give me a bl0wjob - of course I guessed wrong. What I didn't realize until afterwards is that she actually WANTED to suck my c0ck and was just waiting for me to tell her to do it. (She told me on Saturday that she enjoys giving bl0wjobs - fvckup #6 - I win chump of the year award).
Lastly, the one thing I will say is that this girl is the closest thing to a virgin that you'll find at age 27. She didn't lose her virginity until age 21 (to her boyfriend of 2 1/2 years! - and they broke up shortly thereafter) - she told me that after that she really had no interest in sex until age 25. (she's also one of those catholic church-going girls who at one point thought that she would wait ntil getting married before having sex, etc). So she is obviously very sheltered and waiting for me(or somebody) to bring her out of her shell. But, she is obviously very concerned about not looking like a slut.
OK - fellow DJs - your input on this matter is greatly appreciated. Also, I hope that my little story serves as an example of what NOT to do in given situations. My only saving grace is that I know this girl really likes me - so I will have a chance to undo some of my wuss-like mistakes.
