"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Need Advice - On Girlfriend helping a brotha out...

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What's up...Don Juans,
When is it ok for a girlfriend to help you out?

If she is financially helping you out w/ different things - Is that ok like rent and stuff like that?

If she helps you out w/ an assignment at school or helps you finish a project for your job?

The reason I ask is because we got into a little something and she said that some times I feel if I don't help you w/ certain things-- it doesn't get done.....Should I ban her from helping me w/ things...She is the one that is always like let me help you do this and do that....She told me after our little spat that she was under pressure at work and didn't mean to say what she says...

Background -- Dating for over 2 years...Our relationship is on point...I'm a doc love follower...Theres just little things we need to get together--This didn't become an issue until recently....
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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was up man, u know my opinion is that its ok for her to help you out financially, but with rent, that to me is a no go, cus she is gonna start to think its her place and she might hold that against you one day. But hey if she wants to do your homework, thats a good woman, or clean your house or even buy u ****, man thats the advantages of having a great woman who is not selfish. So you should take advantage of that man, trust me if you had a girl that was selfish as hell, and never spent a dime on you, you would be like what the hell is goin on u know. So hey go for it man, just be carefull with rent and **** like that.

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Well from the sounds of it, it doesn't seem like you really got it that bad. Would you rather have a girl who wants to help you, or a selfish gold digger who will try to drain you for all you're worth?
 
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It sounds like this is something she has thought about.

How often does she do this?

Remember that a man's independence is attractive to a women, she does not want to ultimately feel like she is carrying him.

Without too much detail, I recommend that if you can manage your business try and complete it by yourself.

Also is it you that's asking for assistance?

Make sure you come off as the stronger individual

Let her do things for you like massages, cooking (things which enrich your life) which allows her to continue chasing you as the prize.

Not things which which are necessary for life such as paying YOUR rent or completing YOUR education (unless you are in dire need).

Does that make sense?


Kaine
 
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She is trying to tell you to become a man!!!! Take care of your own shyt!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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