Hey guys, so I just created an account on this website and I was hoping for some advice. I know this post is kind of long, so if you don't want to read the whole thing you can skip to the bottom and I'll provide a significantly less detailed, short version.
So I'm a senior in college and, basically, I share a mutual friend with this really hot Hispanic girl who I've met twice now. I'll mention what happened in each interaction in the following two sections:
1.) So I'm in one of the campus dining halls at night with some friends after a bit of drinking and partying. I see the Hispanic girl walk in and she goes over to a table that has some other friends of mine and she sits there. I ask some of my friends at my table if they know anything about her and they say she has a boyfriend. I am mildly disappointed but I decide to go up and talk to her/the group anyway just for practice.
So I'm kind of a fan of the indirect approach, and since the table was mostly friends of mine I figured it would be easy to go about that route. There were five other people at the table besides myself, three of whom I am friends with. As soon as I got to the table, everyone pretty much started talking to me. I came in with a big smile and really high energy, which came off really well I think. The two people at the table who I had never met were the Hispanic girl and some guy (who turned out to be her boyfriend). After talking for like 1-2 minutes with some of my friends, I introduced myself to the guy first, and then the girl. One of my friends said something about her being Puerto Rican as I shook her hand and so I asked her if she spoke Spanish. She said yes, so I told her (in Spanish) that I was learning the language but could not yet speak it perfectly. She was smiling the whole time and said something in Spanish that I didn't hear perfectly but I think it was along the lines of "Oh that's great" or something like that. At that point I got a phone call because my friends were leaving to go smoke so I told everyone at the table that I had to go and I told the guy and the girl that it was nice to meet them, and I left.
In retrospect I barely spoke to the girl and I was only there for a very short time, but I feel like I gave a good impression in case I ended up talking to her in the future. I felt like coming in with such a high energy level went really well and I think I developed a good amount of social proof.
2.) The second time I spoke to this girl was the following weekend at a nearby bar. She was, once again, sitting at a table with some of my friends. I had been jumping from table to table and group to group talking to tons of friends of mine that night. Anyway, I went over to the table and sat down and said hello to everyone. Like the previous weekend, I spoke to my friends first for a minute or so. One of my friends at the table (who is a girl) then asked me if I had met hispanicgirl and asiangirl (another girl who I didn't know sitting next to hispanicgirl). The Hispanic girl and I both mentioned how we had meet each other the previous weekend and I introduced myself to the other girl.
A Hispanic friend of mine who was sitting to my left during this interaction whispered a joke in Spanish in my ear. I asked the Hispanic girl if she wanted to hear a joke in Spanish and she said yes. I told her this joke (it's really corny and stupid) and she laughed a lot. I told her one more and got the same reaction. After this I talked to some other people for a little bit. I went to some other groups and talked to a lot of other people, which I feel like was another good demonstration of social proof. It seemed like I was friends with everyone at the bar, and there were a ton of people there. I sat back down at the table where the Hispanic girl was. As I sat down, a bunch of people got up to go get a drink and there were only a handful of people left at the table (including myself, hispanicgirl and asiangirl). Out of nowhere (I don't know why) I decided to run Style's jealous girlfriend routine on them. I started telling it when a friend of mine, who knew exactly what I was doing, came up behind me and asked me what the names of the people involved in the story were. Fortunately, I managed to give a quick answer but I looked at him when I answered and we both just started laughing and the girls were giggling too. I finally finished the story and we talked for a few minutes until some friends of mine were leaving and I went with them.
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So I think both interactions went well and she seemed to be smiling and laughing in both instances, but I don't really know what to do next. I see her once in a while in the campus dining hall: should I talk to her there? Even if she's with some other friends who I don't know? Should I wait to encounter her randomly over the weekend? Basically I don't know how to escalate considering the fact that she has a boyfriend.
**Any advice on how to proceed or critiques of what I've done so far would be greatly appreciated!**
Thankyou!
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Abridged version:
I am a senior in college and I met a hot hispanic girl (who is also a senior) and it turns out she has a boyfriend. I've met her twice and both times it went well, I demonstrated a lot of social proof, came in with high energy, made her laugh, etc. However, I don't know what to do from this point. Any advice?
So I'm a senior in college and, basically, I share a mutual friend with this really hot Hispanic girl who I've met twice now. I'll mention what happened in each interaction in the following two sections:
1.) So I'm in one of the campus dining halls at night with some friends after a bit of drinking and partying. I see the Hispanic girl walk in and she goes over to a table that has some other friends of mine and she sits there. I ask some of my friends at my table if they know anything about her and they say she has a boyfriend. I am mildly disappointed but I decide to go up and talk to her/the group anyway just for practice.
So I'm kind of a fan of the indirect approach, and since the table was mostly friends of mine I figured it would be easy to go about that route. There were five other people at the table besides myself, three of whom I am friends with. As soon as I got to the table, everyone pretty much started talking to me. I came in with a big smile and really high energy, which came off really well I think. The two people at the table who I had never met were the Hispanic girl and some guy (who turned out to be her boyfriend). After talking for like 1-2 minutes with some of my friends, I introduced myself to the guy first, and then the girl. One of my friends said something about her being Puerto Rican as I shook her hand and so I asked her if she spoke Spanish. She said yes, so I told her (in Spanish) that I was learning the language but could not yet speak it perfectly. She was smiling the whole time and said something in Spanish that I didn't hear perfectly but I think it was along the lines of "Oh that's great" or something like that. At that point I got a phone call because my friends were leaving to go smoke so I told everyone at the table that I had to go and I told the guy and the girl that it was nice to meet them, and I left.
In retrospect I barely spoke to the girl and I was only there for a very short time, but I feel like I gave a good impression in case I ended up talking to her in the future. I felt like coming in with such a high energy level went really well and I think I developed a good amount of social proof.
2.) The second time I spoke to this girl was the following weekend at a nearby bar. She was, once again, sitting at a table with some of my friends. I had been jumping from table to table and group to group talking to tons of friends of mine that night. Anyway, I went over to the table and sat down and said hello to everyone. Like the previous weekend, I spoke to my friends first for a minute or so. One of my friends at the table (who is a girl) then asked me if I had met hispanicgirl and asiangirl (another girl who I didn't know sitting next to hispanicgirl). The Hispanic girl and I both mentioned how we had meet each other the previous weekend and I introduced myself to the other girl.
A Hispanic friend of mine who was sitting to my left during this interaction whispered a joke in Spanish in my ear. I asked the Hispanic girl if she wanted to hear a joke in Spanish and she said yes. I told her this joke (it's really corny and stupid) and she laughed a lot. I told her one more and got the same reaction. After this I talked to some other people for a little bit. I went to some other groups and talked to a lot of other people, which I feel like was another good demonstration of social proof. It seemed like I was friends with everyone at the bar, and there were a ton of people there. I sat back down at the table where the Hispanic girl was. As I sat down, a bunch of people got up to go get a drink and there were only a handful of people left at the table (including myself, hispanicgirl and asiangirl). Out of nowhere (I don't know why) I decided to run Style's jealous girlfriend routine on them. I started telling it when a friend of mine, who knew exactly what I was doing, came up behind me and asked me what the names of the people involved in the story were. Fortunately, I managed to give a quick answer but I looked at him when I answered and we both just started laughing and the girls were giggling too. I finally finished the story and we talked for a few minutes until some friends of mine were leaving and I went with them.
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So I think both interactions went well and she seemed to be smiling and laughing in both instances, but I don't really know what to do next. I see her once in a while in the campus dining hall: should I talk to her there? Even if she's with some other friends who I don't know? Should I wait to encounter her randomly over the weekend? Basically I don't know how to escalate considering the fact that she has a boyfriend.
**Any advice on how to proceed or critiques of what I've done so far would be greatly appreciated!**
Thankyou!
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Abridged version:
I am a senior in college and I met a hot hispanic girl (who is also a senior) and it turns out she has a boyfriend. I've met her twice and both times it went well, I demonstrated a lot of social proof, came in with high energy, made her laugh, etc. However, I don't know what to do from this point. Any advice?
