Need advice on friend zone...

[Johnny Alias]

K. So banged a HOT long time friend last weekend. Kinda happened out of nowhere and we were VERY drunk. I've always had a thing for her.

Thing is she JUST got out of a long term deal and is heartbroken. Therapist keeps telling her she needs to learn to be alone.

So... I invite her out for bowling this week. She says she'd love to and that the other night was amazing. She then throws out the "it was nice to have a night with no strings attached" and that were great friends.

So DJs. How do I play it? Was thinking of rain checking, but is it patently obvious I'm doin that to piss her off? I need your thoughts. Other idea is to go through with it have a ton of fun and not worry about it.

 

[goodganji44]

Sounds like to me you have a fb that's DTF. Keep on hanging out with her and see where it goes.

 

[apprenticedj]

I don't think you need to do anything, go bowling, have a drink and a laugh! More than likely this was your standard drunken-post breakup hookup and that's how it should stay. She is NO shape for anything else, hell her therapist even said so. Keep it super casual and don't sweat it. When you're bowling make sure she sees you talking to other girls, having a great time. That will show you're capable of NSA sex and she'll be more likely to have a go at round 2. The only thing you CANNOT do? DON'T GET ALL WEIRD AND START PROFESSING YOUR LONG SIMMERING FEELINGS. If you do: A.) you'll never tap that again and B.) she'll drop the friendship too.

 

[Johnny Alias]

Nice. Solid. I like it all especially the bit about talking to other chicks. Muy importante.