Need advice on explaining living situation...

[latinnova]

Hello brothers,

Ok, so I have managed to be able to talk about everything in my life very smoothly, and just wanted some critique to see if I am presenting this one aspect of my life correctly, I feel I could use some help on it.

So this is what I tell the ladies if I really start to get to know them and they inquire my living situation beyond the simple " I live in an apartment in said city", due to the fact they might want to come over. So below is what I say..

"Due to the circumstances and the cards that life dealt me, I am temporarily living in a basement apartment while I pursue another college degree."

Bam, short and simple.

I had a house for over a decade, but because of the economic collapse and the divorce that soon followed, it broke me financially and I needed to move into my mother's finished basement, it's basically a large apartment. I am still at the same job I have been for the last 13 years, work as an architect (apprenticed) but this field is not making the kind of cash flow it used to. So I am currently going back to school for software engineering full time (for the last 2 years) and working full time, but have to pay the ex a substantial amount a month for child support, thus I can not afford to live on my own. I have worked my budget over so many times and cut out tons of stuff, but it never yields enough to be able to land an apartment, townhouse, etc... in this area. The only place I could afford to live is where the crips and the bloods run drugs, lol.

So with the information given, would there be a better way to present the living situation so as not to sound like "Wow, this loser lives with his mother??" lol. It's not like I'm free loading, I'm busting my ass, but life just dealt me the cards it dealt and I have to make do with what I have. So, again just seeing if any of the real Don Juan's have critiques to improve my delivery.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Latin Nova,
I remember your story well...Sad business,great that you are getting on with it....."Due to the circumstances and the cards that life dealt me, I am temporarily living in a basement apartment while I pursue another college degree."...Too involved altogether...just Ï am between apartments at the moment,cant afford to waste too much time on it while I have this damned Degree to sort out",then straight away throw a question back at them...Clever Folk make virtues of their failings...Have you never thought that many Women are little nest builders,they don't want to be spending time at your joint,they want you nice and cosy back at theirs!

 

[latinnova]

That's great, thanks for the advice, will definitely make use of it. Ya I have been out of the game for so long that I forgot woman like to go back to their place a lot more then they did mine. It's been a long time brothers, a long time. But I'm definitely getting my game back. No problem with approach or talking to any ladies, I find that fun. Talked to a beatiful Latin girl today from class, great conversation just getting to know her.

 

[Çharismo]

It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

There is no need to even bring anything up just go with the flow. Once things start to get hot and heavy either take her to your place or you can even go to there's. As long as you transition it smoothly your living situation won't be a factor.
Heck you can even bang these ladies in your car if it suits the moment. Your living situation is not a deal breaker. I've taken women to the beach and banged them, in my car etc.

Play on playa!!!!!

 

[Desdinova]

It's only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

Agreed.

If you need to let her know your living circumstances, you need to put a positive spin on the end of it. The tail end of the statement is going to be more memorable than the beginning of it. Let's look at the tail of your statement:

I am temporarily living in a basement apartment while I pursue another college degree

You sound like you're living in a ditch while filling out business-reply cards that advertise easy-to-get diplomas.

How about something like "Right now I'm living in a basement. I had a bad run of 5hit come my way, but I know I'll work myself out of it and get a damn nice house in the next couple of years!"

You need to sell yourself in a positive light even if your current situation is the equivalent of dog barf. People will gravitate toward positive people regardless of what they have or don't have in life.