"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need advice on clothes......

trent81

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Okay guys, I'm almost 33 and need advice on some nice clothes. Don't have much money but I need the following. Can you suggest some stores? I live in a small city so I don't have all the stores here, it would have to be three hour drive or online.

Black Dress shoes I can wear under nice jeans, interviews, etc. and are for wide feet. Brands? Stores?
Dress jeans for going out and casual jeans for everyday wear. Stores?
Casual sneaker shoes. Diesel? Asics? What color? Brown? White?
Going out shirts? Can't put 150 bucks into them. Maybe sixty or eighty bucks. For clubbing, drinks, and "non-work" type gatherings, maybe even dates when I start dating again.
Sweaters and Hoodies for winter. I used to wear stuff like American Eagle and Tommy Hilfiger for causal stuff like this on top of jeans. Still ok to do that?
I have a nice suit, I have workout clothes, I have hoodies with like sports teams. I have very nice winter jackets and coats. I am looking for a look that will be nice to have a drink in when I go out, but also casual clothes I can wear when I go do something during the day. My biggest problem is shoes and jeans. Any advice....Thanks..
I'm not skinny nor fat. I have big ass hips so I can't wear slim jeans, I have wide feet. I have a little bit of belly so I need shirts that are not too tight but not too loose.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Depends on build and preference. Living in Boston for a while and frequenting the night life there, I would spot the button ups from express. Those are reasonably priced when they are having deals. I also have jeans from there. As for shoes, I just get generic black ones for cheap. Diesel is expensive, so I am not sure what you hope to accomplish on a budget. I also wear gongshow shirts near a younger crowd. Wish list would be affliction tee shirts.
 

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Kinowear.com = All your style problems solved.

Make sure you check out their recommended articles as well. Some powerful things to be learned.
 

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Keep an eye out on Overstock.com. After being unsure about the idea I decided even if buying clothes from there didn't work out I wouldn't be out much money. I've gotten a suit, some dress shoes and shirts, ties etc. I've had to get the suit tailored but that's expected.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Stores I like:

Banana Republic
Express
Armani Exchange
Lacoste
Buckle
Kenneth Cole
Michael Kors
 

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I'm sure there's a fashion outlet mall somewhere near you. Be prepared to show up early the day after Thanksgiving next month. There will be insane discounts at some great stores.
 

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speakeasy said:
I'm sure there's a fashion outlet mall somewhere near you. Be prepared to show up early the day after Thanksgiving next month. There will be insane discounts at some great stores.
the days after Xmas are when I get most of my good shirts and jeans. If outlets have not made profits, they want want to unload extra inventory at really low prices.

Tis the season!
 
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