"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need advice on break/Breakup w/ GF

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perseverance

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j0504s said:
She is blocked now....ihate that I still have feelings for her its so dumb....
In time these feelings will decrease and will be a distant memory, you've done the hard bit by cutting someone unhealthy out of your life. When you look back in years to come, you'll be glad that you walked away from her.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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perseverance said:
In time these feelings will decrease and will be a distant memory, you've done the hard bit by cutting someone unhealthy out of your life. When you look back in years to come, you'll be glad that you walked away from her.
Thanks for the support I feel empty right now. The fear of heart break is a clear reality right now. Bpd females are very scary and I wouldnt wish it upon my worst enemy. I went from feeling that I had the world by the nutz to absolute crap. I can just only hope tomm. Will be better....
 

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j0504s said:
its all done its over im kinda of mess, she said she wanted to die she said she thinks she will releapse. she hooked up with another guy (no sex) when we were on a break, Claimng she was vulnerble I told her he was taking advantage of her vulnirbility, she said sno no no he was being nice...we both know the answer
I can almost guarantee you, there was sex. I'm also a bit confused by how different people use the term 'hook up' considering that I've only known it to refer to sex. Guess that's not very helpful, though.
 

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Groblin said:
I can almost guarantee you, there was sex. I'm also a bit confused by how different people use the term 'hook up' considering that I've only known it to refer to sex. Guess that's not very helpful, though.
really doesnt even matter at this point....Im so resentful right now and pissed i broke n/c 8 days now, just to have her say to me, "you didnt buy me enough presents" shes fu*kin 26 years old. thats something your mad at your aunt at when your 8 years old. Im just angry right now. its really effecting my work. I hate to b*tch about things but I cant stop right now!!. I went from feeling so alpha to feeling so ****ty restless and irritible. Im trying to accept this whole BPD thing but there is no ryme to her reasoning its just sick, twisted and hurtful. I feel far less then ready to even approach new women right now and its been over a month since the break up. before this relationship for four years i felt like an unstoppble force when it came to approaching females...my mind is no where near that. Its not even a confidence factor its compleltly my resentment towards this "child" and re-opening my wound of untrust towards women. Currently remmbering why i stayed out of a relationship for so long and threw women to the curb when they started *****ing.....:box:
 
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