“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Need advice on approaching women at the gym

sangheilios

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I've made some threads about women I've met at the gym and considering if I should perhaps change up my strategy a bit. I've been going at a slightly different time, though at the same gym, and I've been seeing some women I'd definitely like to approach.

What I've done in the past is approach women I've seen there at least on a semi regular basis, so there is at least some familiarity. I would walk up to them when they were in between one of their sets, stretching, etc. and say something like "I don't mean to interrupt your workout but I wanted to say hi, my name is....". Every single time I've approached at the gym they would all talk to me for a few minutes and overall seemed very open and friendly towards me. What I then would do is let them go back to their workout without asking for their number and talk to them the next time I'd see them. Unfortunately for me, I never dated any of these girls, as they all had bfs to no surprise.

Any advice on how I should improve on this? I do actually go to the gym to workout and I'm not looking to approach every single girl there.
 
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Play the long game. Introduce yourself, exchange names and then go back to working out. Remember their names, and say, "Hi name..." whenever you see them and don't stick around.

You'll slowly build socially proof which will help more than any opener or technique.

Girls that are interested in you will make it clear.
 

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Dont. They may see you somewhere out the gym. In the gym the only appropriate place is the classes.
 

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Play the long game. Introduce yourself, exchange names and then go back to working out. Remember their names, and say, "Hi name..." whenever you see them and don't stick around.

You'll slowly build socially proof which will help more than any opener or technique.

Girls that are interested in you will make it clear.
What would you consider the "long game"?

Summer 2017 I approached a woman at my gym and we spoke for a while before I let her go back to her workout. The next time I saw her, which was a few days later, was when I was stretching after my workout. She came into the warm up room and saw me looking at her and sat there until I went over to approach her and when I did she immediately opened up. I asked for her number which was when she admitted that she had a boyfriend so I said "If you are single let me know" and I left. We kept talking after that whenever we'd see each other.
 
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