"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need advice on acne scars (pics included)

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TonyBaloney

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Hey bud,

I can honestly say from a male perspective, if you were a guy who i started talking to for whatever reason....say you were a fellow forester, like me, I honestly would never ever have noticed it. Its the same old thing that we all go through; somebody when we are young makes a comment about something and all of us, being young afcs (and females more for this matter) blow things up out of all proportion. I got acne too when young and it was a confidence knocker. But honestly mate, your a man now. You look like a dude who can pull hot chicks, so just go for it - nothing to keep worrying about!!!! Just get out there and be a dude!!!!!!!!!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah... this isn't the place to do this. There is a whole sub-forum on acne.org devoted to this sort of thing.

Your scars are mid to severe but the mid-severe area is only confined to a small area on the cheeks which is good (I can't tell if you have them anywhere else). The best advice I can give you when looking to correct them is to take it slow and do research, research, research on the potential procedures and especially the derm who will preform them. You can find SO many stories about people who got screwed over multiple grand (and months of time) because they went to crappy derms. Do NOT rush into it.
 

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TonyBaloney said:
one final thing i would say though is get yourself a good haircut ;) your present style sucks bigtime!!!!!
I know, I need to change the hair. I tried short hair before but it didn't work for my facial shape and structure..
 

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Men can get away with scarring and still be attractive, plus yours isn't bad.

Dry skin brushing over time is the best option. Lemon juice in lieu of soap/after shave. Acne is a sign of liver toxicity so Milk Thistle and organic diet are the best option.
 

Young Stallion

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Your acne is not the problem with your looks.

You look very pale and meak and have a long haircut.

I know you said that short hair doesnt look good on you, but I would try it again if I were you, then go work out on the weights alot to build up the testosterone and go tanning.

This should help you quite a bit.
 

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go on a raw food diet 100% and your skin will change back to normal...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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IMO no girl in her right mind would think twice about the scars... what will make her think twice is your insecurity about it. We all have stuff we don't like about our bodies, just get past it man.

I have minor scaring but still stuck with acne at 29... I'm often surprised by the looks I get from girls I think are way out of my league looks wise. It always comes down to game or lack there of that determines the outcome.
 

Young Stallion

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Metaphysical said:
Yeah agree, I look a lot better with a tan.

I just gotta find a short haircut that works for me.. this is another pic of shorter hair.. looks a bit awkward in my opinion but I gotta find a new stylist and see what he can do

http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/314570_10100641500415102_28131069_63657394_891687255_n.jpg

LOL this picture of you makes you look completely different.

You look buff, laid back and ready to go dude. Keep in shape, tan and you will be just fine. Your acne marks should have minimal effect on you, take a look at my pics that I posted I think they are on the second or third page. You will see something about my face if you look VERY closely, I notice it and think it sucks that I have it. But not alot of other people notice.....you are likely the same way about your acne marks.
 

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The first thing I said when I saw your pics was "what scars?". Dude, they are barely noticeable and I'd go as far to say that they give your face a little character.

As for the long hair and pale skin...pale skin is in, skin cancer is out. The long hair would work in Europe but not America.
 

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Metaphysical said:
Yeah agree, I look a lot better with a tan.

I just gotta find a short haircut that works for me.. this is another pic of shorter hair.. looks a bit awkward in my opinion but I gotta find a new stylist and see what he can do

http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/314570_10100641500415102_28131069_63657394_891687255_n.jpg
I think the hair looks great on you either way and it can only work in your favor. In my opinion you could pull off a Jon Levin with that hair (the short style or the long one. Doesn't matter). Forget spending 10 grand on such a minor problem. Instead put more energy into going to the gym and work to getting a Dwight Howard physique. Going to the gym and getting excellent results will not only erase that "problem" from your mind but it'll get you in significantly easier with the ladies. I'm assuming you're about 5'9. Am I right?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Young Stallion

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Yeah man, the girls are gonna love yah. No reason for any surgery especially forking over 10K.

I want you to make a list of all the things that you could use that 10K for and you would be suprised how many things you could get that would go to waste if you paid for a surgery that you do not need.
 

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Not being rude but you look a little gay/feminine. But good looking. Young girls like that.
 

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Dude... you look GREAT!!

I really dont see a big deal with the scars. I have some myself and dont really pay attention to them much.

Only thing I could tell you is that watch your body language. I didn't liked your cross armed position, that's bad body language.

Also... try not to smile that much. A sly smirk will do sometimes. I remember a statistic made on a study that said girls were more attracted to more serious/mysterious/confident look than a smiling/friendly look (first impressions of course)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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