"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need advice. I know what to do but its hard

Pandora

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I used to hang out with this chick from my work. We started going out on dates and got to 1st base (make out) but she would never let me go all the way. She was dating other guys told me that she just wanted to be friends. She then started dating another workmate who she was basically using as a sponsor/ ATM.

She would come to my house and lay in my bed until one day i told her that it wasn't fair to me and that she had to stop. It turned into a big blow out with her saying that " if you cant be just friends with me then we should not be friends". I told her to erase my number and i forgot about her.

Fast forward 3 months later. She had a horrible break up with her bf (who is an associate of mine). Super bad break up. Now she is blowing up my phone wanting to be best friends. I told her stop calling me but she is insisting that we be friends again. I know what to do but its soo hard lol..i need help.

BTW this girl is super ****ed in the head. I know what to do but its nice hearing it from others.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Desdinova

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I used to hang out with this chick from my work.
Lesson #1: Don't stick your dink in the company ink

You know she's fvcked up in the head, you know she just wants the attention. Ignore her texts and keep things civil only for workplace necessities. She'll eventually find someone else who'll give her attention.
 

apprenticedj

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Desdinova said:
Lesson #1: Don't stick your dink in the company ink
Nail.hit.on.the.head!

I don't know how many times I've heard this from people but it took me several dips of my own before I realized that it's absolutely true. In fact my most recent dip (within the past year) really illustrated it for me.

I ended hooking up with a co-worker after she aggressively came on to me. I figured, why not? I had nothing else going at the time ( ALERT: scarcity mentality!!!) We hooked up briefly until she decided it wasn't a good idea anymore. That left me horny AF with no other plates in rotation, seeing her daily and hearing her talk about a new guy she was seeing or what happened at the club last night f*cking killed me!! It was terrible but praise be to allah I didn't let her see it.

Long story short: Company ink is a maxim for a reason. Don't dip in that sh*t!

In your case deny that crazy b*tch want she wants. Caving in will only put you in a weaker position and more than likely she STILL ain't giving up the p*ssy! She's only seeking a emotional tampon, don't waste your time.
 

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apprenticedj said:
Nail.hit.on.the.head!

I don't know how many times I've heard this from people but it took me several dips of my own before I realized that it's absolutely true. In fact my most recent dip (within the past year) really illustrated it for me.

I ended hooking up with a co-worker after she aggressively came on to me. I figured, why not? I had nothing else going at the time ( ALERT: scarcity mentality!!!) We hooked up briefly until she decided it wasn't a good idea anymore. That left me horny AF with no other plates in rotation, seeing her daily and hearing her talk about a new guy she was seeing or what happened at the club last night f*cking killed me!! It was terrible but praise be to allah I didn't let her see it.

Long story short: Company ink is a maxim for a reason. Don't dip in that sh*t!

In your case deny that crazy b*tch want she wants. Caving in will only put you in a weaker position and more than likely she STILL ain't giving up the p*ssy! She's only seeking a emotional tampon, don't waste your time.
You guys are right. I no longer work at that site. I left a while back. It fascinates me the lengths women will go to in order to have an emotional crutch. As a guy it is very difficult to relate to that intense of a need. Because it is difficult to relate to this strong urge for an emotional tampon it is easy to mistake this as interest. The urge is so strong that they will grovel back to guys that they once dismissed in order to have that emotional tampon. Maybe its a security thing.
 

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Sounds like a female Don Juan!!! What a "playerette" for keeping her "options" open!!!!! Her pimp hand WAS strong too but now she has oneitis....bad. Lack of options will do that to someone. :whistle: Never sleep with coworkers brah it's not worth the headache no matter how desperate you get...never compromise your standards ever. It's never truly worth it. If you play this right you can make a friends with benefits situation if you want but you will have to lay it out plain and simple. No games. Make it clear to her that she will serve only 1 need and that is sexual. The rest is up to you. I think you are smart enough to handle this one. :trouble:
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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