Need Advice - How to move on given my situation

[VictorK]

Hello All,

I've come on here looking for some advise and feedback on my situation:

I've summarized things below:

- I broke up with my LTR of 4 years in March and have spent the past few months working through the situation and moving on

- My problem is I have basically 2 groups of friends: 1 group is the married friends. At my age its common for people to start marrying off so this group has done that. It is tough to make plans to see them because their priorities and committments have changed.

- the 2nd group of friends I have are single, however they never want to go out or do anything social. I have quickly realized that I will never meet anyone if I hang out with them.

- I have a good career however the friends I've made at work are all engaged or married so again, their priorities don't align with mine when it comes to going out to places to meet people.

So the advise I need is, what would you suggest I do to set myself up to meeting new people? I'm looking at this point to make new friends & meet women to date. I feel like I am restarting from ground zero when it comes to building my social network (if that makes sense) and I could really use some tips and advise on how to go about and do this.

Thanks,

 

[LeftyLoosey]

I'm in your boat. I recommend this: http://www.meetup.com/

 

[KarmaSutra]

Find whatever you're passionate about then find like-minded people to befriend.

I'm passionate about cigars, mentoring other men, and writing. I have close friends (men and women) who're passionate about all, some, or none of the things I am. We feed off each other's passions and energies.

Start by figuring out what it is that makes your heart smile. Then do that.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear VictorK,
Look this is a common situation....I experienced it too,can't rationalise this break up with friends and Acquaintences,to whom I would also add neighbors...I think it boils down to firstly,Married couples:In general they don't want to take sides,at the time the Men Laughed and the Women said "What a Bvastard"should a husband in my case seven years down the line as much as talk to you he will be in deep Poo-Poo at home,keep your door open but in general don't bother too much....Neighbors:In my case they generally come back,one Lady is absolutely flirtaceous..There is some coldness,but they forget it when they want to use your spindle moulder,or get you to break in,when they lock their keys in,also the kids act as a catalyst in getting things ALMOST back to normal.......the Feminazis still maintain the rage though....Well my social life got back to normal in about eighteen months....Basically I used Karmas tactics,got back to my Stamps,organic gardening and Bushwalking...successful socially, but not much luck with the Ladies...Dancing was my Salvation,I took up Ball Room,Rock-N-Roll and Argentine Tango....Now I can pick and choose...Another great thing was finding Chinese Ladies,they are just wonderful...Apart from his health,they are Gods greatest Gift to Occidental Man.