Need advice here on the girlfriend

[captain55]

Hey fellas, I've currently am two months into an official relationship with a woman I have been pursuing for close to two years. i didn't actually sleep with her until about two weeks ago actually, by far the most satisfying conquest of my life! I used to make threads about this on the old don juan site and none of the guys ever thought I would have a chance with this one but I pulled it off.

But anyways....She lives a few hours away from me so we generally see each other about once or twice a week. In person our chemistry is great, she has told me the following
"nobody turns me on the way you do"
"the reason I fell in love with you is because of this"
"you make me happy"
" I hope you know how much I appreciate you"

The problem is Im not the type to blow up a girls phone calling or texting her, by the time I go 3 or 4 days without seeing her, she starts saying she feels completely disconnected from me and starts questioning our chemistry and relationship. However if I saw you the things she says to me at times you would definitely say thats clearly a woman deeply in love.

For the record she just told me that she doesn't want to be with me, that she is not in love with me and that she's constantly wondering if Im with other girls and its bringing to much stress to my life. Funny thing is just six days ago she was telling me the complete opposite and planning vacations with me. We got in a fight (a texting fight the other day lol) and she has gone cold on me ever since. I understand that Women are emotional creatures but I just don't feel like this is normal.

She's an amazing person for the most part and very hot, I don't want to lose her but I just want your guys opinion on this chick and should I let her go at this point.

thanks

 

[Desdinova]

She's an amazing person

She sounds like a fvcking mess. Hot one day, cold the next. Do you actually think that this is going to fix itself in the future? I sure as hell don't.

If you like having your emotion fvcked with on a daily basis, this is the right woman for you. If not, ditch her for somebody more stable. You managed to fvck her and now your conquest is over. You've discovered she's not worth anything other than a lay.

 

[Speculator E]

The problem is Im not the type to blow up a girls phone calling or texting her, by the time I go 3 or 4 days without seeing her, she starts saying she feels completely disconnected from me and starts questioning our chemistry and relationship. However if I saw you the things she says to me at times you would definitely say thats clearly a woman deeply in love.

For the record she just told me that she doesn't want to be with me, that she is not in love with me and that she's constantly wondering if Im with other girls and its bringing to much stress to my life. Funny thing is just six days ago she was telling me the complete opposite and planning vacations with me. We got in a fight (a texting fight the other day lol) and she has gone cold on me ever since. I understand that Women are emotional creatures but I just don't feel like this is normal.

Captain55, you need to google/read about women's menstrual cycle and how it affects their emotion and mood. Depending on which part of the cycle they are on they can become hot warm or cold distant with you like a switch. It's either coincidence or there's a reason that my girl has just done the same thing as your girl. I've been tracking it for awhile and found the hot and cold games they play happen on a monthly cycle just like their period.

For your question, I've had this happen before with multiple ex'es. They will say they want to break it off. Then wait a week or two and initiate and they'll magically like you again. The key is you need to back off and go no contact. A simple text that says "If that's that way you feel then let's just end it then. Good bye"

 

[Speculator E]

She sounds like a fvcking mess. Hot one day, cold the next. Do you actually think that this is going to fix itself in the future? I sure as hell don't.

If you like having your emotion fvcked with on a daily basis, this is the right woman for you. If not, ditch her for somebody more stable. You managed to fvck her and now your conquest is over. You've discovered she's not worth anything other than a lay.

He didn't say he is hot one day and cold the next. At the least it's weekly.

 

[captain55]

Captain55, you need to google/read about women's menstrual cycle and how it affects their emotion and mood. Depending on which part of the cycle they are on they can become hot warm or cold distant with you like a switch. It's either coincidence or there's a reason that my girl has just done the same thing as your girl. I've been tracking it for awhile and found the hot and cold games they play happen on a monthly cycle just like their period.

For your question, I've had this happen before with multiple ex'es. They will say they want to break it off. Then wait a week or two and initiate and they'll magically like you again. The key is you need to back off and go no contact. A simple text that says "If that's that way you feel then let's just end it then. Good bye"

Have not noticed a pattern in her monthly cycle, these fights occur too frequently. Usually about once a week....and the fight is always triggered with distance. (going a whole day without texting her or calling her)

 

[El Payaso]

Tell her you don't like being harassed and being made to feel like a constant suspect. Tell her her lack of trust is her doing alone and if she doesn't want to be with you, that's fine. You understand.

As close to nuking her hamster from orbit without actually doing it.

 

[Speculator E]

If it happens a lot like that then it may be bpd or bipolar. Still it's the same strategy either go no contact or break it off and go no contact. Then re initiate later. If it's happened a lot you can add in the "This is happening way too much I'd tired of it"

 

[RangerMIke]

Sounds like she brought up being exlusive and you pushed back. Or maybe she wants this and doesn't have enough experience to bring this up.

 

[Julian]

sounds very stupid/immature.

pursuing for 2 years? waiting 6 weeks to smash after being "official". Long distance? Lol wtf bro. So much wrong here.

Sounds like both are naive/dumb when it comes to this stuff...hey thats why your here right lol. check it out your doing things all wrong.

If you wanna be with her then have her move to your city. If not then just say fk it move on.

 

[dustmuffin]

Did you say two hours away? LDR never work!

 

[Speculator E]

Sounds like she brought up being exlusive and you pushed back. Or maybe she wants this and doesn't have enough experience to bring this up.

This is pretty normal for the first 2 or 3 month. My long distance ex did the same thing. The only difference is she tried to use the distance as the justification for her feeling. But if OP was dating a local girl he ll still get the same $hit but with some other excuse. OP is doing alright as long he doesnt get desperate and wait it out. For the record I broke up and reconcile three time in three month with my ex I know what I'm saying.

 

[captain55]

I appreciate the responses. And I

Sounds like she brought up being exlusive and you pushed back. Or maybe she wants this and doesn't have enough experience to bring this up.

I asked her to be exclusive, I knew if I told her my real intentions she would not have messed with me. Took me forever to get her to trust me enough to sleep with me, she always figured I was gonna smash and dash. By the time she did sleep with me I could already tell she accepted that.

 

[captain55]

If it happens a lot like that then it may be bpd or bipolar. Still it's the same strategy either go no contact or break it off and go no contact. Then re initiate later. If it's happened a lot you can add in the "This is happening way too much I'd tired of it"

Ive dated a bpd and know the condition very well, I doubt its bpd but I think bipolar could be a real possibility. This is the only way I know how to put it. Im a pretty good judge of interest level with women Ive been around the block... From the time Im with her in person to 1-2 days after I see her, it wouldn't matter if Brad pitt tried to hit on her because her interest level is 100%. That's how confident I am in our relationship. But when she starts disconnecting from me once a few days go by, I feel like she would cheat on me like nothing because she completely shuts down and her interest level is pretty much non existent.

As of the past 24 hours, she cannot be my girlfriend, she's not in love with me, and our relationship was nothing more than a casual fling.

 

[captain55]

Tell her you don't like being harassed and being made to feel like a constant suspect. Tell her her lack of trust is her doing alone and if she doesn't want to be with you, that's fine. You understand.

As close to nuking her hamster from orbit without actually doing it.

Ive tried this numerous times, she then just chalks it up to having no chemistry and us not having a real relationship. Usually to profess her love to me a few days later...