Need advice from senior members?

[game08]

Ok guys i was seeing a girl for a couple months and we decided on committing to a relationship. I agreed only because the sex is great, and shes extremely nice, brings me food whenever she comes over, offers to help me financially (I'm in school full time)

I'm generally not one to commit to relationships. IMO opinion when your talking about a serious LTR you need to know what the person is really about. So I took the liberty of going through her text messages when she was sleeping. And to make matters short, she met one dude online and told him if all goes well she'll go back to his place and **** him. I guess she went and met the guy talked for a while and nothing happened. This is one month into the relationship.


Advice from the older more experienced guys, should i give this girl a chance to come around or cut her off right there?

 

[Exhumed]

Haha I think you know the answer...anybody on this forum could tell you

 

[Sandow]

Well at least you know what kind of girl your dealing with. And don't expect her to change.

 

[Cure]

get rid of her shes not worth it.

More importantly, WTF are you playing at going down someones phone. You've no right to do that at all, to anyone, for any reason.
How would you like it if a girl went down your phone? I would dump a girl if I found out she went down mine, and expect the same in return.

Phones are private spaces, respect them.

Cure

 

[COD]

ummmm YOUR FIRST CONCERN is why are U violating her private messages.............THIS IS CLASSIC WUSS BEHAVIOR. IF A GIRL WANTS TO CHEAT NO AMOUNT OF SNOOPING WILL STOP IT.

LETS RECAP............a chic U like brings food, gives you money and has sex with you............and U are concerned with her away time from you.

WOW whats wrong with this picture.............Id say the problem lies within you. Booty calls come and go............why should it bother you.

Any type of ULTIMATUM you give her will end up in you losing what you have............in the history of ultimatums............NO WOMAN HAS AGREED.

FOCUS ON THE MONEY, FOOD AND SEX..............and enjoy. Sheesh and for Gosh sakes, stop looking for red flags, warning signs, etc.

 

[Blown5.0]

good thing you saw the message....you know what she does when shes not with you!!

anyone else have the urges to go though cell phones??

 

[game08]

You know whats funny, this girl i was banging in high school, , went to a friend of a friends house and got tag teamed by two dudes. Well I saw her recently on a dating site talking about how she's looking for love romance and a serious relationship.

When you don't know a girl through friends or know about their backround you have to be careful. The girl I was talking about says she wanted a serious, long term relationship, and has a 9 month old child.

Some say its not right, but in a situation like that, the girl seeming so nice and me considering getting serious without knowing too much about her past, I did some investigating.

I mean tell me if I was an a**hole and stole her blackberry anyone would criticize me for looking through it and laughing?

 

[DannyM]

To be honest i wouldn't of gone through her fone unless maybe she gave you some reason to doubt her trust, I find it very hard to trust a chick im in a relationship with, it is a flaw of mine some people say....I don't make it openly know to her but it has made me cut things off before they got serious with numerous girls