I need some advice on some things….here is the situation, my b-day was this week and right now my parents want me to have a party because they think I’m anti social. I have a list of kids…the majority of them is my friends (boys) and some cousins. I only have a few girls. I know that I have to be more social this week so I can get more girls (plus I don’t won’t a party of just boys cause that is pathetic)…but need advice?? Also I never really had a party (pretty sad) and I just want it to be fun…I need advice on that also please? I have so many things in my head right now, I don’t even know what I should tell them to come to this party? Those are the main problems I am having and the party is this Saturday so please help…thanks
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Need advice for first party being organized for me
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It's your birthday party. Have some cool music, some food, some drinks, and a lounge kinda setting for social chatter. If you want more girls, ask your cousin sisters to come along with their girlfriends.
Personally friends are friends no matter what gender they are. I wouldn't care if I had a social event at my place with my best guy friends only.
Personally friends are friends no matter what gender they are. I wouldn't care if I had a social event at my place with my best guy friends only.
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I had my 21st a few months ago. Before that, I hadn't had a party since middle school because, well, I had no friends during most of the intermediate years. lol.
If I can do it, you can do it. I'm in college so I invited my closest (guy) friends over. Then I invited some girls who I had met within the past semester. Some I was interested in...Others, I just think they're cool. It worked out really well.
I was even reluctant to have a party, much less invite people (girls) I didn't know so well. But I don't think it matters so much. Everyone likes a party and it helped that I had good drinks, a flatscreen and good music.
Try it out.
If I can do it, you can do it. I'm in college so I invited my closest (guy) friends over. Then I invited some girls who I had met within the past semester. Some I was interested in...Others, I just think they're cool. It worked out really well.
I was even reluctant to have a party, much less invite people (girls) I didn't know so well. But I don't think it matters so much. Everyone likes a party and it helped that I had good drinks, a flatscreen and good music.
Try it out.
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Erm Dinner Party? You gotta be kidding.Jamal said:Well the guys will be 17-18 years…my cousin will come and he is 24 with his friend and my parents will be there (they want to make a dinner for us first) then we chill downstairs in my basement for the party…its at my house in NY
Throw a proper house party man. Get your parents out of the way, either keep them upstairs or out of the house altogether (Best). Don't have any of this dinner crap, unless you want a more formal and intimate social gathering (Which I assume you don't). Have one room for dancing (Dark with dance music contiunously going), one room for chilling and relaxing and tell people to bring their own drink (Alcoholic ofcourse). If you are having a proper house party, you can probably invite anyone and they will come, everyone likes a good rave.
That's all you really need to throw a good party, the rest will follow.
Okay here is the thing...I don't think im planning on having a big party (its just not worth it cause of money for setting one up) my parents just want me to have a party with 20 people tops...have my close friends and having girls also. The party will be in the basement so parents are away from it. Just need some ideas on what to do at party. It may sound stupid but how would you ask them so that it comes out good. Need more advice in general please
Ahh ok, so you are having a more intimate social gathering then. Well just don't invite anyone you don't know or aren't good friends with. If you invite girls you don't really know to a chilled social gathering, chances are they will not turn up and they'll gossip and make fun. Just don't worry about it. If you were throwing a proper house party, it would be a big deal, but it's just a gathering of close friends. Just let people do their own thing, you'll probably have fun.
Can't really say anything Crimson didn't he's spot on. But, I was also gonna suggest myspace/facebook. Just post a sort of bulletin to everyone, but don't make it seem boring, act as if it's going to be a huge party. I mean, you live in the most populated city in the U.S, there are plenty of people and plenty of girls. Just ask every one of your guy frineds to try and bring girls, don't seem desperate about it, just tell them to invite all the girls they know. If you aren't going to have booze, it'll be hard to get people there, sad but true. BYOB is fine, but a dry party is one nobody wants to attend. Have a few snacks, video games are cool for sure, or if you have a backyard, set up makeshift beer pong, get a cheap dartboard, music is a must!!! Good luck.