"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hi guys im taking a computer course (Windows Server), and i'm sitting next to this girl (in her 30's), who occasionally smiles at me and makes small talk, and asks stuff about my life (where do i live, studies, family,etc). she is married, she told that in a conversation and i could see the ring in her finger.

Thursday morning while i was taking some notes about what the teacher was saying i saw her out of the blue writing some stuff in a piece of paper, but she didnt give it to me right away. Some time later while we were talking i asked: do you have facebook, if so i can add you and she gave me the piece of paper which contained her cellphone #, home phone # and facebook email. moonday

I was a bit surprised, because she had to have a great amount of trust with me to give me her home #, i only met her last monday when the course started.

i didnt swap email or # right away and told her i would later text her my # and add her in facebook. i did text her my # and added her in facebook, but she didnt reply nor did she accepted my friendship in facebook.

I know she's married and i should probably look elsewhere, but why so much interest and then go ghost for all weekend. at least she could text me back...

i dont know how to act monday, i think i'll ignore her and dont pay her any attention in class, and if she brings the subject of getting my cellphone # through the text message i sent her fine by me.

Really thought that she was interested, or perhaps she was playing me for a fool. We never know with women. Did she give me a fake cellphone #? Should i call instead of sending another text message and ask her if she wants to have a coffee or talk to her in person in class?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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skinnyguy said:
Your princess is in another castle
that reminds of me of the end of supermario lol. care to explain her behaviour then? is she just seeking attention because she has a dull marriage and she just wants to play a guy for a fool?
 

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She's married dude. Are there really no better options for you?

Her behavior is irrelevant, find a female who isn't married.

You trippin'.
 

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SmooveMooves said:
She's married dude. Are there really no better options for you?

Her behavior is irrelevant, find a female who isn't married.

You trippin'.
i'm not really looking for anything serious with this girl, maybe i had getting laid in mind if she wanted it, but not planning on trying to win this girl over. i dont want problems. it was her attitude that made me post it here looking for answers.

thanks anyway guys. and you're right, i can have better, less problematic options in my life.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What, are you an idiot?

Actually, I sympathize with you somewhat; a couple years ago, I sat next to a platinum blonde in her 30s for class. Things inevitably got awkward with some unintentional flirting.

But I was never so stupid as to cross that line! She's MARRIED!

-Darth
 

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guys guys wait a minute, i wasnt the one who gave his cellphone and home # in the first place? this girl is obviously flirting and i guess a guy is entitled to wonder if her marriage is not going well, maybe her husban is not giving her enough love or affection. why do married women flirt anyways?

i didnt even called her for **** sake, only sent her a text message with my number. that's why i posted here before making anything stupid.
 

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hooking up with a married woman sounds kind of awesome actually. complex, problematic, dangerous, maybe unethical, but kind of awesome in the way of i would tell my friends about it.
-my personal opinion. but it sounds like you all think its stupid.

i actually had a friend who was hooking up with a married woman that he worked with. he said it was weird because he had met the husband and the kids too. and he did feel bad about it. of course this didn't stop him.

but he did learn from it too. he said if he gets married he's going to be a lot more careful with his wife. that "ladies night out" could mean something else completely.
 

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Hooking up with married women can lead to getting killed. Especially if she's married to a spineless frustrated AFC.

I've see it happen.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Married so what? Women dont care these days. They will cheat on you if Brad Pitt comes along. You will be the choad when you wife gets fvked by your friend or your brother. Truth is these days marriage is just a piece of paper. Dont wanna sound cynical but thats why divorce rates are high. Your wife will probably have cheated or will cheat on you because most men lose all game when they are married and she will be looking for other covcks to suck.

If the married woman is hot and she comes on to me I would probably do it, because some other choad is probably doing the exact same thing to my wife.

The only way of stopping your wife cheating on you is if you marry a fat short ugly biaaaash.

I wouldnt do a married woman who had kids though...


Go figure.
 

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SmooveMooves said:
Hooking up with married women can lead to getting killed. Especially if she's married to a spineless frustrated AFC.

I've see it happen.
Thats not true I went with married woman, the spineless AFC found out, he didnt do crap.In fact he wanted her back after I dumped her.
 

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mikey2012 said:
Thats not true I went with married woman, the spineless AFC found out, he didnt do crap.In fact he wanted her back after I dumped her.
I said can mate, not will.

I personally don't give a fvck whether a chick is single, married, dating or not. But you should not have to work for a chick that's married.

If she's not throwing herself at you, then it ain't worth it.

+ She's playing games, that's why I advised there must be better choices, especially since messing around with a married chick can get you killed. If the guys crazy.
 

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smoovemoves is right. there are some crazy dudes out there. but i find this to be rare.

i do however have one female friend from middle school who is dating a crazy dude. me and her were just long time friends. but after she started dating him, he started to send me (and a couple other friends of mine) physical threats. "i will hurt you" type of stuff. he didn't want me hanging out with my friend at all. not even talking to her. the guy's an ex bodybuilder/boxer and his threats were quite serious.

i don't hang out with this friend of mine as much as i used to. i'm hesitant to go to their wedding but i will out of courtesy to her. she tells me that he's calmed down about it now. i'm still going to be cautious.

boy, imagine i had ****ed her...

anyway i'l be staying safe away from her and her psycho bf. its too bad bc she was a long time friend too.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NeedToImprove said:
i'm not really looking for anything serious with this girl, maybe i had getting laid in mind if she wanted it, but not planning on trying to win this girl over. i dont want problems. it was her attitude that made me post it here looking for answers.

thanks anyway guys. and you're right, i can have better, less problematic options in my life.
Maybe her husband will see yiur text and beat u to death with a baseball bat



chasing another mans wife makes u a piece of ****
 

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exhausted said:
Maybe her husband will see yiur text and beat u to death with a baseball bat



chasing another mans wife makes u a piece of ****
Lol..maybe your wife is getting bvttfvced by Mandingo . I did not chase. She chased me for a long time and I repelled her until I couldn't . You guys are so fvcking naive .

Yes repelled her until I couldn't . If a fvcking Victoria secret model comes up to you everyday for a year and wants to suck your **** you're telling me you would resist .

You speaking all fvcking high and mighty now but you never been in that situation .
Until you have you should stfu.
 

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Getting back on topic...

She's probably wracked with guilt. But that comes with the territory. Same rules apply. Go ghost. If it's going to happen let her make the moves. That way she can't pin her guilt on you.
 

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It's not worth it.

There are too many single women out there to pursue a married women. I've had opportunities present themselves and these were attractive women but in reality it's not worth it...possibility of too much drama. Don't approach women on facebook either it's the kiss of death in terms of attraction. As soon as they start bashing there husbands to me that's basically a red flag and I usually bolt. She's probably ignoring you and maintaining boundaries so you don't cross the line. Just keep it strictly in class and studies nothing else.:trouble:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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