need adivce - help smooth situation after I acted imature

[cockerdumbnuts]

Hey Guys.
I've been reading this site for awhile and noticed there is some great advice here. I'm just looking to get some advice/opinions on my current situation. I'll give you guys the relevant back ground info but try to keep it short. If you need to know any more to help analyze the situation, just let me know.

So I've been seeing/f ing this girl for about 2 months now. Our relationship is mostly sexually based but we've been spending a lot of just hangout time together recently and I really like hanging with this girl. We are not officially bf/gf but treat each other fair. I had a few girls in the rotation when I first met her but have since narrowed it down do to the fact that I like this girl. Both of our lives are busy and recently (last 2 weeks) we haven't been able to see that much of each other. And that when my mind starts to mess with me.

My girl is 20 and we live in Vegas. She is in the process of getting a fake id and that bothers me. She is hot (HB8+) and likes to party. I know that she will get hit on massively at the clubs and thus would rather not have her have the id. She was supposed to get the id this weekend and I was planning on heading out of town. Originally we had plans to go to cali together but she said she couldn’t get off work, or so I was told. My mind starts running now and wonders if she was wanting to stay behind so that she could go to the clubs.(Theres been a few other times where we had plans, small, but non the less plans to meet up and sh*t came up, so I wanted to figured out where I stand with her.) There is a small thought in my mind that she may be talking to another guy. So instead of being a man and just speaking to her, I get my buddy to text then call her as if he's one of her other possible guys. She just lost her phone and doesn't have any of her numbers so I knew she would have no idea who it was.

So my buddy texts her. He says that he has a table at one of the clubs and for her to come join the fun. She gets very excited and keeps trying to figure out who it is. You can tell she wants to and would go. So then he calls her after a short while and has her on the phone laughing and trying to figure out who it is. In the convo, she says that she doesn't have her id yet. He ends that conversation without her figuring out who it is.

Later in the night she puts two and two together and figures out it was me that was messing with her. I get a text asking why I pranked her. She always gives me a in her text and there was not one this time so I could tell she was mad. I was out partying at the moment, so I never responded.

So, whats next? I asked some of my buddies that are good with the ladies and have got mixed responses. One of the better pieces of advice I heard was to get a new girl. But I like this girl and would still like to kick it with her. On the other side, I have heard to just sack up and apologize for my immature behavior. His argument was that I was sh*t testing her and wouldn’t want to be messed with that way myself. Also, she’d probably be more willing to give another guy attention since I’m being dumb with here.

So lets hear it fellas. Thanks in advance.

****erdumbnuts

 

[WalkingStick]

If you don't trust her, either deal with it or let her go. You even said you're not actually in a relationship, you have no reason to expect her to be exclusive.

You were out partying without her when she texted you, but you don't want her to go out partying without you? She's 20 years old and lives in Vegas, what do you expect?

Good luck

 

[drak_ool]

first of all you should figure out what do YOU want out of this relationship, and then discuss that with her, see where both of you stand. You started your post by saying she is not your gf. But from what you wrote, it seems to me that you view her as such. You sound pretty attached to this girl, so you should either back off if you want to keep her as a f.uck buddy (start seeing other girls too so you won't focus entirely on her), or you should talk to her about being exclusive. Because it sounds like this is what you want from her.

Also, your way of acting was indeed dumb, why the hell would you go through all that trouble to find out what a girl who is not your gf is doing?

The best way to get out of this situation is to play it off as a dumb drunk joke. Just pretend you knew she couldn't tell who it was, so you and your friend, after having too many drinks, thought it was a good idea to prank her. So you end up apologizing, but without actually telling her the real reasons behind your action, which would make you look VERY insecure.

hope this helps