Need a way to turn a chick's mind around her being 24 and me 21.

[brod716]

So this chick seemed to be really into me with all the classic signs of flirting... she was playing with her hair all the time, laughing loud, touching me, flinging her towel at me, etc.... I was wow'ed... Then, she asked me how old I was... I told her 21. She was like "oh my God, you're just a baby"... I was like "What the F**K?" - well not in so many words, but that's what I thought...

But she didn't seem to lose the IL after I said I was 21... Two days go by and I see her at the gym again and I continue to be ****y/funny, since it worked last time, and she starts up again with this shyt, that "girls in my age are looking for someone like 30, you're just so young" ... I played that off and told her not to worry, that the one before her was also 24 and she didn't really seem to mind.

Then I realized what I was doing, defending myself, putting myself at her disposal, so I shut up, went back to being funny, saying "well, then you'd better hurry and find someone then, cuz you don't wanna get any older "... so anyways, we still planned on getting lunch sometime - but I just don't want her to think she can string me along and not think of me as a "man" but as a "boy"... F**k that, I don't have time to waste.

However, of all of you, I ask, what should I do/say, to let her give me a chance, which I really want, becaues I do like her a lot, and seems that she does too. So, I'm willing to put in a bit more time and energy into this because nothing comes easy in life, but if she's stubborn, well, then................... NEXT.

Thanks.

 

[diablo]

For the most part, I think that she's telling the truth in what she expects in terms of age. When you're 24, odds are good that you're starting to want someone who's already established both socially and financially - and "mature". It's social conditioning, in that society has taught her that older men are more desirable because they've accumulated more goods and knowledge than their younger counterparts. That being said, you can still get the girl into bed - as much as the old guys are "desirable", odds are that they aren't too much fun. Offer to take her out, let her know that your friends and you will be going to some hot spot and see if she pops up there. Hopefully you've got friends that she's not going to see as being immature - that'll do nothing to help you. I'd tease her about her old age - 'granny' might make a perfect nickname for her from now on. Tell her that old people shouldn't be lifting so much weight, that it might break her brittle bones... Whatever you can come up with on the fly. Sounds like you're already doing a fairly good job of things as is. Either she's going to come around or she's already decided that you're not suitable for anything, ONS or relationship-wise...

 

[brod716]

Originally posted by [T]he ishop
'granny' might make a perfect nickname for her from now on. Tell her that old people shouldn't be lifting so much weight, that it might break her brittle bones...

Cool! Will put it to use immediately. Granny, here I come

 

[diablo]

Not that it holds true in all situations, but I've got a friend who's 23 that married a 20 year old guy not too long ago. She used to dance at Rick's Cabaret (New Orleans) and decided to settle down... So, it's not impossible for an older woman (as if it's really that much older) to hook things up with someone younger than herself. It's all in what she wants... good luck with the lady!

 

[So pimp its scary]

I had this similar situation; I met a girl at the bar, who was 24 and I'm 21 (22 today actually).

She started off saying that she was too old for me, and all that I really told her was 'ok' and left it at that. I kept working to attract her, and anytime she brought up her age I would say 'ok' and nothing more.

We were in her car after the bar, and she says, 'Oh, but your too young for me...' and I just went and kissed her. She kissed me back, and a few minutes later gave me a BJ.

(I've since stopped calling this girl tho)