"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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One of my targets gives me a call, we talk it up for a bit and I throw in some not that funny humor. Apparently it was because she dropped her phone into the sink...now it's broke and she's got a new phone.

The next day I get a myspace message (no i did not meet her on myspace) saying, I got a new phone and need your number...blah blah blah.

So i was thinking of sending a C&F txt message to her phone, but is that really nesscisarry ? and do i stand to gain anything from it. Any ideas ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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u dont need to do that, just talk normally cuz c+f isnt really necessary here
 

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Clueless1 said:
Backdrop:

One of my targets gives me a call, we talk it up for a bit and I throw in some not that funny humor. Apparently it was because she dropped her phone into the sink...now it's broke and she's got a new phone.

The next day I get a myspace message (no i did not meet her on myspace) saying, I got a new phone and need your number...blah blah blah.

So i was thinking of sending a C&F txt message to her phone, but is that really nesscisarry ? and do i stand to gain anything from it. Any ideas ?
If you really want to go ahead. Do something like:

"You know it was really immature of you to break your phone just because I didn't let you in my pants on the first date"

or

"Hey you know if you wanted to know if my number was real you could've called it, you didn't have to break your phone to get it again".


I could think of alot more, possibilities are endless, those are just af ew of the top of my head.

Or like skip said its not necessary, but then again its more just part of my personality so it kinda just comes out all the time with me.

You should really aim to get to the point where its not conscious, where you aren't thinking, "Is this a good time to be ****y and funny", it should just flow naturally.

My dos pesos.
 

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There's a time to be serious and another for joking, this is the serious part.
 

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Lifeforce said:
There's a time to be serious and another for joking, this is the serious part.
I'd like to know why you feel this is serious? I like seeing others way of thinking.

I had this situation happen but it was actually in real life, where she caught me after a class and told me and I looked at her and said something ****y and just sorta ran away like I was trying to avoid her and she ended up chasing me down to get my number.

But everyone's experiences are different, so do what you feel right, I personally like the C+F way just because its part of me I guess.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Replacing all the numbers in a phone is a real drag to do. If you have many then you want to make it as soon as possible to be done with it. Save the C&F for something worthwhile.
 

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Lifeforce said:
Replacing all the numbers in a phone is a real drag to do. If you have many then you want to make it as soon as possible to be done with it. Save the C&F for something worthwhile.
I guess that's why its har dfor me to relate to other guys when asking for C+F advice. ****y and funny really isn't a technique I "do" anymore, its more just part of my personality, I have fun with it all the time. So I think since our style's are a bit different htat might be why, good post though, thanks for showing me your POV.
 
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