need a quick opener, any ideas?

[ryanccnz]

I'll give you a little background on my situation, basically I met this girl at a music festival two days ago, we chatted briefly (i wasn't at my ****y/funny best at the time but she still seem to dig me) she asked me if I had facebook and gave me her name. So I'm gonna add her on facebook tonight but I need an opening message that will make a bit of an impact.

I'm thinking of using something like "hey, how was the rest of good vibes for ya, hope you weren't thinking about me too much"
(for those who don't know good vibes was the music festival)

anyone got any suggestions?

 

[ChrizZ]

I'll give you a little background on my situation, basically I met this girl at a music festival two days ago, we chatted briefly (i wasn't at my ****y/funny best at the time but she still seem to dig me) she asked me if I had facebook and gave me her name. So I'm gonna add her on facebook tonight but I need an opening message that will make a bit of an impact.

I'm thinking of using something like "hey, how was the rest of good vibes for ya, hope you weren't thinking about me too much"
(for those who don't know good vibes was the music festival)

anyone got any suggestions?

This is what I posted to one of my girls and it worked...

"Friday night was pretty crazy, we both got carried away pretty quickly, but i thought you were quite unique and i would like to get to know you properly . why don't we get coffee sometime this week and talk a bit? when are you free?"

Credit to DjDan

 

[ryanccnz]

thanks, not quite my style though, anyone else with any ideas?

 

[Eaglecreek]

I'll give you a little background on my situation, basically I met this girl at a music festival two days ago, we chatted briefly (i wasn't at my ****y/funny best at the time but she still seem to dig me) she asked me if I had facebook and gave me her name. So I'm gonna add her on facebook tonight but I need an opening message that will make a bit of an impact.

I'm thinking of using something like "hey, how was the rest of good vibes for ya, hope you weren't thinking about me too much"
(for those who don't know good vibes was the music festival)

anyone got any suggestions?

Jeez, and to think you're the lucky one! YOU know who you want so take it! Expecting us to read you a freaking bedtime story?

Stop overthinking stuff, stop waiting for advice and just do something. Go say hello and go out togheter have some fun, don't keep texting on computer, go see each other (NOW GODDAMIT!). Stop caring about openings and go with the flow, she already digs you so you don't need our advice nor do you need us to tell you who to be!

 

[Climax]

ryanccnz: Add her, read her profile, learn more about what type of woman you are dealing with, and then sending her a message anywhere along the lines of "Hey how did you enjoy the rest of the night? I had a blast, was nice to meet you... Would love to continue our conversation some time.. "

Not too forward.. Yet not coming across as too shy.. Leaving the ball in her court.. Her reply should tell you a lot.

 

[ryanccnz]

thanks Climax, I quite like your input, don't you think though its a bit rude to add her as a friend without even sending a message? i'm thinking of sending her the message you recommend when I add her as a friend.

What ya think?

 

[Climax]

Yeah for sure send her the message when you add her... The part of reading her to get to know her better was just an extra thing that I suggested you do so that you will have a better idea of who you are dealing with. Normally a person's fb page can tell a lot about the kind of person they are.

Anyways hope it comes right with her... And don’t be scared of her, you have a lot to offer, be confident in yourself, that is key.

 

[Reborn]

I think you think too much. "Hi" has always worked for me, then just take it from there and see if she still has any interest. Corny elaborate messages is not needed and in my book only come off as needy if you just met her. If she responds great, if she has low interest, too bad.

 

[Climax]

I think you think too much. "Hi" has always worked for me, then just take it from there and see if she still has any interest. Corny elaborate messages is not needed and in my book only come off as needy if you just met her. If she responds great, if she has low interest, too bad.

While what you say might make sense... In reality people tend to be very wary and judgmental, especially when it comes to a potential fling/love/whatever u wanna call it.

So if you word yourself correctly you're more likely to give her a better impression of who you are. And it makes you stand out from the average joe that’s said all the same things before.

nothing wrong with being an average joe i guess... but some of us also prefer to stand out, give her a reason to remember you and not the pete and john that met her as well.

In short.. we know the "hi" will do the job, but why be ordinary when you can be extra ordinary?
Attraction doesn’t always kick off from the start go.. Sometimes its created/intensified after you just meet a woman briefly.