"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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need a little opinion here

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well i met this girl, we hit it off and things were nice at the beggining. we got into small arguments sometimes and i had a bad temper, i realise my mistake now. she however..asked for some time off as everytime we are together she says it's either i won't let her go and she won't let go (intimate moments i mean,where we loose control u know) and she needs time to finish up her studies. she says she still loves me like she always has and misses me, she even said she wants me but not now. but asks me to wait and asked me to change my temper. though these days she holds back like though she misses me and stuff she won't say it out and stuff like that. she still messages me but she tends to do it a little less, and we are not seeing each other much due to her request for space.
guys, well i am not too good at this, and i need some opinions from u all either way of what i should do and what she actually feels.
thank you.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How long have you been with this girl?

Your story reminds me of when I was in highschool and found out my girl was ****ing the Latin teacher she said that same kinda **** before I found out. Not that I think she is cheating on you or whatever but she is definitly moving on and seems afraid of hurting your feelings.

If the girl is too busy to see you anymore and she isnt preparing for some major **** its just excuses. Especially when they need "space".

Id say you need to start going out and finding other chicks so you dont focus on this one. Sometimes backing off will draw them back in and they become **** buddies sometimes not. But personally I wouldnt worry about it and pretend you guys are already broken up cuz lets face it you basically are. Cut off contact and see what happens.
 

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well i kinda did cut off contact but within hours she texts me sayin she misses me and stuff.
and she only says "not now". she asked me to wait, somethin i don't think i will do unless i know it's worth it(i am not in a rush for relationships , i rather be f**kin someone else, it's just that i screwed up here by showing temper).
she says it's still me she wants and stuff.
we are meetin tommorow, any ideas?
 

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and yes..she is preparing for some major ****. it's her finals which will decide where will she be headed to. she admitted tat everytime she's with me, she tends to let time fly and she looses concerntration, and she needs the time now to catch back.
 

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Im always skeptical of girls that are suddenly too busy, but on the chance that everything is legit and you are still gonna try to be with the girl when you see her I wouldnt even talk about the situation.

Doing that will just possibly make you angry again or seem insecure in her eyes and make her think about it, which you dont want. Just act normal and have a good time she needs to associate good feelings with being around you so she wants more. If you get the feeling that its not gonna change you gotta step up as the man and end it completly dont let **** drag on and on.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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thanks a bunch for the opinion.
i am considering putting a stop to this bull****, so i needed second opinions,in case i don't rush into decisions.
thank you.
of course other opinions are welcome as well. i would like to know more.
 
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