Need a little advice on pursuing this one..

[drf408]

I met this one girl out, we recognized each other out here and there. I happened to run into her at a bar while visiting my friend (about 80 miles away!)on Friday and I got the same look from her. Kind of a *****y look, and we passed each other. Next night I'm back in my home town area hanging with a couple of buddies at the bar, the same girl is right beside "Hi, I saw you last night at .."

Night went great, she was fun, she hung with us. She wasn't hesitant about coming back to my place at all. We were all in the living room, she gets up and goes into my room saying "Im going to sleep for a while". Regardless of whether or not that was an "opportunity" blown I have a hard time jumping on a drunk chick like that. Later on I went in there and she was sound asleep so i did the same.

In the morning, I had plenty of time to make a move, eventually I did, shouldn't have taken me that long granted. I got pretty far until I got a "I'm not ready", I just said "thats cool" and stopped. I had her # already and dropped her off at her car.

I sent her a txt a couple of days later, I would've actually called first but my job is a beast this week. I told her I'd give her a call sometime this week anyways. We've been going back and forth. I was getting the vibe that I she was uninterested but she surprised me with a few out of the blue texts including a "hope you're having a great day!xoxo" today. That had no interesting reply to.

I'd like to see this girl again however up until very recently I've been way too comfortable with this one girl who is no longer around. I'm a bit rusty at this. She is fresh off a relationship, moving to my hometown area, she actually lives up where I saw her on Friday.

She had left to go meet a friend for about half an hour the Sat night she was hanging with me and some other, much less attractive girl approached me while she was gone. She came back quicker than expected, so i just introduced the two of them talked to both for a bit and then focused back on the one I liked. She told me "You should talk to her, I'm starting my life over now." I assumed there was truth to this but it was also a test. So i stuck with her and the rest of the night went as described above.
I'm having a hard time of figuring out how to approach this, she clearly is in the recent breakup frame of mind. So giving her too much of a vibe that I'm into her would most likely scare her off, but from what I've seen so far, making her think I want to just bang her 1 time would be equally bad. My assessment could be wrong. Should I ask her out, as I would any other or just be real casual and let it go a couple weeks? She is pretty responsive so far but her actual responses are kind of "distant".

 

[BritBoy]

If she is like you said fresh out of a relationship, you should have banged her that night when she was at yours. She was looking for it, an invitation, offered it up on a plate to you.

I had a similar experience last week, and banged the girl. Don't ask me why girls do that, revenge fuvk? Needed a boost from the recent break up? Hell you shouldn't care and shouldn't think twice about it. You missed it and the opportunity might not present itself again. (And usually it's just a one off if you bang her, rarely with repeat performances)

My advice to you is that she's a goner now, and you should only contact her when you are either drunk/horny, or if you must, you can get her to wing you when you are out on the pull. She might not be a bad asset to have.

But pursue other women and forget about her, who knows maybe one day she will turn on her slut mode again when on one of her wing duties with you

 

[drf408]

It's not over yet but I need to make the most of the opportunity. We are going out for drinks in my neighborhood tomorrow. I did blow it that night but she is also a bit different cultural wise (asian 7 years in the country). I think she needed to get drunk and wanted to get laid but sober the next day..she seemed "torn". I did mishandle the situation.
I've been texting back and forth, she seems to be interested in overlapping our plans for the weekend too. I know this may be the beginning of me just being her buddy and hopefully eventually she gives in. However I am going to try to prevent setting the precedence tomorrow night.