Need a bit of advice on a flaker

[BornSinner]

Alright so first off, I broke one of my rules of not getting involved with a woman at work.

I took her out last week for the first time. Made plans with her yesterday to go out tonight but she canceled on me a few hours before and asked if we could hang out another day. Ordinarily I'd cut off contact at this point, if she reschedules cool, if not I'm onto the next one.

Butttttt, she works with me, how do I handle this one? My original plan is to just well, not react. Won't avoid her but won't seek her out either. Won't engage in conversation but won't shy away from it either.

What do you guys think?

 

[Tiguere]

how come you didnt kiss her on the first date???

 

[BornSinner]

lol wait, I didn't tell you that. Mind blown.

I was into her but just didn't.

Edit: I can probably say it's because she's older than me and for some reason that threw me off. I tend to not kiss a girl on the first date anyway unless I'm just trying to smash, I tend to feel things out. Not kissing on first dates never really affected my game.

 

[Tiguere]

you have to go for the kiss ASAP. women have orbiters all the time and the faster you create sone type of bond/familiarity between u and her the better things will turn out to be for u.

ask her when is she free..then schedule uour second date.. preferably where alcohol is involve. and please if you get a second date go for the jugular

 

[BornSinner]

you have to go for the kiss ASAP. women have orbiters all the time and the faster you create sone type of bond/familiarity between u and her the better things will turn out to be for u.

ask her when is she free..then schedule uour second date.. preferably where alcohol is involve. and please if you get a second date go for the jugular

When should I reschedule, should I go no contact for a while? Should I make her be the one to approach me?

 

[Tiguere]

at this point is irrelevant. text and ask her when shes free and take her out for some drinks

 

[PlayHer Man]

I'd reschedule but up the ante.

Most guys take women too seriously in the first place. They get all emo when a woman flakes or acts like a b!tch. Wrong response. Instead.. just lower your respect for her with each infraction.

For instance.. once a woman ignores a text or call with a lame excuse.. I use that as license to do the same.. but also to add some disrespect to the mix. Like next time I see her.. I might point out a flaw and say something like: "Did you get your shoes from your Grandmother?" OR "Are you really blond or is it from a box?". Subtle jabs at her self-esteem.

In general.. I'm just abusive to low quality women. I'm abusive for three reasons:

1. They deserve it
2. They respond to it
3. Its fun

Remember.. with each infraction, you lower your respect.

 

[Greasy Pig]

As a man who has specialised in boning work colleagues, just be very cool at work and be a consummate professional. She'll be expecting you to act all weird and shy but don't.
Just carry on like nothing happened, be the funny jerk and await your next opportunity to up the ante.