You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I think its main benefit is to act as a 100% foolproof ANTI-NEEDINESS shot. This is something many guys need when a girl breaks up with them - so in that sense it does have its uses - I'm sure its far better than begging - which is all that you can initially think about.teeitup73 said:Anyone ever see benifits of No Contact?
tomato said:I think its main benefit is to act as a 100% foolproof ANTI-NEEDINESS shot. This is something many guys need when a girl breaks up with them - so in that sense it does have its uses - I'm sure its far better than begging - which is all that you can initially think about.
HOWEVER - I really dont think it works very well and in many cases it can drive her away and into another guys arms. So please be careful when taking advice to do so. I would certainly try just running standard game initially - just being a cool guy - just take her out on dates etc and be totally cool - if she is acting like a ***** and wont talk to you, try again NEVER SHOWING THAT ANY OF IT IS GETTING TO YOU say you think it would be cool to meet up and you'd have a great time. If she ignores you and is rude - then then best thing you can do is ignore her back - dont say anything - just go full NC BAM like that - fall off the planet - let her come to you, and when she does be slow - make sure you are not over eager - take it very cool and slow. Also go full hardcore gaming during the NC - it kills the neediness a little.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.