"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So basically seeing some chick six months back - things died down she went a bit distant from then onwards i went completely NC and got on with ****.

Fast forward to last weekend..call out of the blue on a sat night telling me how she loves me and that she cant stop thinking about me bla bla bla...

At the moment im seeing 2 other chicks anyway and working a ton so my contact towards her has been very brief, replying to text 6-8 hours after if atall.

So now havent heard from her atall - radio silence!

Why do they do **** like this? Im probably wasting energy thinking about it anyway but advice would be apprectiated.

To add i did like this girl and would love to get down on it again but at the same time im busy - NA'MEAN!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What did you say when she told you? I think you're playing games when you don't need to.
 
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How was your frame on the phone when you were talking to her?
 
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Kept is as cool as possoble was a bit shocked cos i didnt have her number and thought it was a different chick blowing up my phone, i was at a house party at the time.

She told me she wanted to see me but couldnt for a while as she was working over weekend and then on holiday next week.

No point in me arranging anything cos we dont know when we are both free to see eachother.

I replied to her message couple nights back and heard nothing since. I dont know if she is trying to play the same game that i am or if she has just thought **** it cant be bothered sort of thing.

I just cba with the text convo it bores me - much prefer call or face to face.

To be fair it does probably come across like im playing a game - **** it - i dont know what to do. Life goes on aha
 
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first what you really want? and really what you mean by NC? NC for me is no contact, all msg she send are ignored and not read, even less will answers one.

if was me, after months without talking with her she calls me and tells that over the phone I would just say, ok, turn off the phone and run fast from her
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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if was me, after months without talking with her she calls me and tells that over the phone I would just say, ok, turn off the phone and run fast from her[/QUOTE]

GOOD ****ing question yo! Perhaps its me who needs to sort my **** out rather then her

Pools been pissed in i guess - NC goes on
 
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it would be good to hook up with her but if we are both going to play games with eachother then ther's no point.

NOTE to all peeps going through the NC motion heartbroken over a girl.

keep it up...I was in a **** place over this girl once upon a time - now look!
 
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My advice from experience...wash your hands with this and just continue as you were. I've been in your situation and this what I've learned.

1. Women don't know and are never sure of what they feel all the time. Her telling you she loved you could have been engaged by something/someone in her life disappointing her at that time. She needed some validation In her time of obvious shakiness and was hoping you would reciprocate those feelings. She tells you she loves you then says she can't see you for a while? Read her actions...not her words.

2. I know you said you kept it cool...but frame is frame and once you open a woman to you, she can read you like a book. Women can read men's frame in ways that men don't even understand. You simply asking the forum means you still have some feelings and even in your conversation, I guarantee she could sense it. Doesn't matter how cool you may think you came off. It's crazy but not answering her call would have done more wonders for you than anything. Had you answered and really gave off the feeling like you were talking to some Fat ugly chick, she would have picked up on that and her being busy would turn to I can find time.

I advise anyone now, if you have feelings for a chick...it's sad to say, but do not persue it realistically. Train your mind to look at her like a fwb situation. That is the type of environment we are in right now. Have relationships with chicks who you feel like you could cheat on if a better option came around. Men need to practice hypergamy.
 
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kenpiffyjr said:
My advice from experience...wash your hands with this and just continue as you were. I've been in your situation and this what I've learned.

1. Women don't know and are never sure of what they feel all the time. Her telling you she loved you could have been engaged by something/someone in her life disappointing her at that time. She needed some validation In her time of obvious shakiness and was hoping you would reciprocate those feelings. She tells you she loves you then says she can't see you for a while? Read her actions...not her words.

2. I know you said you kept it cool...but frame is frame and once you open a woman to you, she can read you like a book. Women can read men's frame in ways that men don't even understand. You simply asking the forum means you still have some feelings and even in your conversation, I guarantee she could sense it. Doesn't matter how cool you may think you came off. It's crazy but not answering her call would have done more wonders for you than anything. Had you answered and really gave off the feeling like you were talking to some Fat ugly chick, she would have picked up on that and her being busy would turn to I can find time.

I advise anyone now, if you have feelings for a chick...it's sad to say, but do not persue it realistically. Train your mind to look at her like a fwb situation. That is the type of environment we are in right now. Have relationships with chicks who you feel like you could cheat on if a better option came around. Men need to practice hypergamy.
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^^^THIS^^^

Aint even going to argue with what you said, agree 100 bro!
 
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bobafatt said:
so my contact towards her has been very brief, replying to text 6-8 hours after if atall.
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What would you assume of a girl who does this to you? How would you react? Does this happen to be similar to how she reacted? Hmmmmmm.... must be some sort of coincidence.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She told me she wanted to see me but couldnt for a while as she was working over weekend and then on holiday next week.
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Also that's probably bull****, if she's really so desperately in love with you she'd mash you into her schedule until somehow someway you fit into it. But don't jump to conclusions or do anything rash, give it a week, but I wouldn't hold my breath
 
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