"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NC with ex who I work with, is she testing me already?

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Got dumped, made the mistake of doing some pleading and reasoning. Now attempting to do NC. Made that clear.

Unfortunately we work at the same company but in completely separate physical areas. Our employer has a "laptop initiative" where some members of staff can check out laptops for use while they're employed there.

I've already told her once in person before and again in text the extent of my knowledge regarding how to get the laptop. She needs to submit a ticket and/or email/call the help desk guy so they can verify her eligibility. Literally sent her a text about it last week, and, unless she deleted my texts, she knows this.

The problem is the text is likely buried in the mounds of sh!t that I sent her this past weekend. Did she legitimately forget(she has kind of a weak memory)you guys think or is she just testing me the next fvckin' morning after I made no contact clear?

Is it worth being professional and concise in my text just telling her what to do? I was thinking of saying "I already sent you a text with directions last week" but it just seems too butthurt. Alternative was "You need to submit a ticket and contact XYZ, that's all I know about it." She texted me roughly 2 hours ago so I haven't responded yet, and, I didn't contact her first.

Thanks for the thoughts.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ThePasses

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You're the one who came up with the idea that there will be No Contact but you're considering answering her? Say what?!

You can not be the only person in that building that knows how to checkout a laptop. She'll figure it out.
 

Alvafe

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Got dumped, made the mistake of doing some pleading and reasoning. Now attempting to do NC. Made that clear.

Unfortunately we work at the same company but in completely separate physical areas. Our employer has a "laptop initiative" where some members of staff can check out laptops for use while they're employed there.

I've already told her once in person before and again in text the extent of my knowledge regarding how to get the laptop. She needs to submit a ticket and/or email/call the help desk guy so they can verify her eligibility. Literally sent her a text about it last week, and, unless she deleted my texts, she knows this.

The problem is the text is likely buried in the mounds of sh!t that I sent her this past weekend. Did she legitimately forget(she has kind of a weak memory)you guys think or is she just testing me the next fvckin' morning after I made no contact clear?

Is it worth being professional and concise in my text just telling her what to do? I was thinking of saying "I already sent you a text with directions last week" but it just seems too butthurt. Alternative was "You need to submit a ticket and contact XYZ, that's all I know about it." She texted me roughly 2 hours ago so I haven't responded yet, and, I didn't contact her first.

Thanks for the thoughts.
why you care? ignore and move on
 

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Got dumped, made the mistake of doing some pleading and reasoning. Now attempting to do NC. Made that clear.

Unfortunately we work at the same company but in completely separate physical areas. Our employer has a "laptop initiative" where some members of staff can check out laptops for use while they're employed there.

I've already told her once in person before and again in text the extent of my knowledge regarding how to get the laptop. She needs to submit a ticket and/or email/call the help desk guy so they can verify her eligibility. Literally sent her a text about it last week, and, unless she deleted my texts, she knows this.

The problem is the text is likely buried in the mounds of sh!t that I sent her this past weekend. Did she legitimately forget(she has kind of a weak memory)you guys think or is she just testing me the next fvckin' morning after I made no contact clear?

Is it worth being professional and concise in my text just telling her what to do? I was thinking of saying "I already sent you a text with directions last week" but it just seems too butthurt. Alternative was "You need to submit a ticket and contact XYZ, that's all I know about it." She texted me roughly 2 hours ago so I haven't responded yet, and, I didn't contact her first.

Thanks for the thoughts.
To save any work related hassle i would answer work related stuff only. Other than that no contact is what it is. Bo contact. If you told her how and she can't remember that isn't your fault or problem.
 

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If a woman is an "EX" that means she doesn't matter any more. The only women who matter are women you are actively f*cking.

If she is your EX then the relationship is over. So why are you making a thread about a woman who you're not f*cking and who doesn't give a sh!t about you? Focus your time, energy and attention on something important. On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being "important" I would put Ex girlfriends at -10 right below celebrity gossip and the latest children's book.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Haha oh man.
 
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