"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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NC with ex who I work with, is she testing me already?

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Got dumped, made the mistake of doing some pleading and reasoning. Now attempting to do NC. Made that clear.

Unfortunately we work at the same company but in completely separate physical areas. Our employer has a "laptop initiative" where some members of staff can check out laptops for use while they're employed there.

I've already told her once in person before and again in text the extent of my knowledge regarding how to get the laptop. She needs to submit a ticket and/or email/call the help desk guy so they can verify her eligibility. Literally sent her a text about it last week, and, unless she deleted my texts, she knows this.

The problem is the text is likely buried in the mounds of sh!t that I sent her this past weekend. Did she legitimately forget(she has kind of a weak memory)you guys think or is she just testing me the next fvckin' morning after I made no contact clear?

Is it worth being professional and concise in my text just telling her what to do? I was thinking of saying "I already sent you a text with directions last week" but it just seems too butthurt. Alternative was "You need to submit a ticket and contact XYZ, that's all I know about it." She texted me roughly 2 hours ago so I haven't responded yet, and, I didn't contact her first.

Thanks for the thoughts.
 

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ThePasses

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You're the one who came up with the idea that there will be No Contact but you're considering answering her? Say what?!

You can not be the only person in that building that knows how to checkout a laptop. She'll figure it out.
 

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Got dumped, made the mistake of doing some pleading and reasoning. Now attempting to do NC. Made that clear.

Unfortunately we work at the same company but in completely separate physical areas. Our employer has a "laptop initiative" where some members of staff can check out laptops for use while they're employed there.

I've already told her once in person before and again in text the extent of my knowledge regarding how to get the laptop. She needs to submit a ticket and/or email/call the help desk guy so they can verify her eligibility. Literally sent her a text about it last week, and, unless she deleted my texts, she knows this.

The problem is the text is likely buried in the mounds of sh!t that I sent her this past weekend. Did she legitimately forget(she has kind of a weak memory)you guys think or is she just testing me the next fvckin' morning after I made no contact clear?

Is it worth being professional and concise in my text just telling her what to do? I was thinking of saying "I already sent you a text with directions last week" but it just seems too butthurt. Alternative was "You need to submit a ticket and contact XYZ, that's all I know about it." She texted me roughly 2 hours ago so I haven't responded yet, and, I didn't contact her first.

Thanks for the thoughts.
why you care? ignore and move on
 

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Got dumped, made the mistake of doing some pleading and reasoning. Now attempting to do NC. Made that clear.

Unfortunately we work at the same company but in completely separate physical areas. Our employer has a "laptop initiative" where some members of staff can check out laptops for use while they're employed there.

I've already told her once in person before and again in text the extent of my knowledge regarding how to get the laptop. She needs to submit a ticket and/or email/call the help desk guy so they can verify her eligibility. Literally sent her a text about it last week, and, unless she deleted my texts, she knows this.

The problem is the text is likely buried in the mounds of sh!t that I sent her this past weekend. Did she legitimately forget(she has kind of a weak memory)you guys think or is she just testing me the next fvckin' morning after I made no contact clear?

Is it worth being professional and concise in my text just telling her what to do? I was thinking of saying "I already sent you a text with directions last week" but it just seems too butthurt. Alternative was "You need to submit a ticket and contact XYZ, that's all I know about it." She texted me roughly 2 hours ago so I haven't responded yet, and, I didn't contact her first.

Thanks for the thoughts.
To save any work related hassle i would answer work related stuff only. Other than that no contact is what it is. Bo contact. If you told her how and she can't remember that isn't your fault or problem.
 

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If a woman is an "EX" that means she doesn't matter any more. The only women who matter are women you are actively f*cking.

If she is your EX then the relationship is over. So why are you making a thread about a woman who you're not f*cking and who doesn't give a sh!t about you? Focus your time, energy and attention on something important. On a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being "important" I would put Ex girlfriends at -10 right below celebrity gossip and the latest children's book.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Haha oh man.
 
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