Navigating a woman's emotional response after sex

[bacchus]

So I F closed one of my plates last night following our second date - 29 years old (a little older for me), HB8. She showed high interest in me right from the first date last week and probably would have gone for the lay then but there were some logistical constraints.

One thing I'm starting to notice with women in their late 20s or older (that I don't see with younger girls) is that they almost always seem to react in one or two ways after I've nailed her:

1) They become very clingy (i.e. text messages right after I leave asking if I made it home ok, that they miss me, had a great time, want to see me again etc), or

2) They become a little withdrawn or guarded... less warmth, less cuddly/touchy feely... basically showing less overt signs of interest immediately after sex than immediately before.

Last night's girl falls into the second category. Obviously it's pretty simple to deal with #1. Dealing with #2, I've found that women will sometimes feel cheap and used and basically need some subtle reassurance from they they're more than a pump and dump to you. However, doing so while maintaining your frame, the "I am the prize" mentality and the alpha aloofness that attracted them to you in the first place is a difficult balancing act.

Anyone else finding this? How do you address it?

 

[San]

i don't think you want to hear to spin plates, and i'm not telling you you should.

Spinning plates is the same behavior these entitled girls show us..
are we not way beyond that as men?!

An "true" marriage should perhaps be the important corner stone of our society, like it has been.. but instead there's a trend we see is that all this feministstuff and gaystuff is being promoted throughout the world, thereby trying to turn more men into pussies and women into man.

Some Women and men have lost their sense of what it means to be male/female and eventually you even go beyond being male/female. (concepts).

It is true though that men integrate more feminine energy nowadays but that has nothing to do with the beta boy. The integration of feminine energy is actually a good thing.. and the same goes for women who integrate more male energy..

Perhaps it's still to early to think like that, you have just met her.
I would try and get to know her better, see how it goes.. be aware though and watch our for red flags along the way if you are with her spendng more time together.

Maybe she experienced more of the guys who just use/abuse, but maybe with you she wants to take it more slowly because she's really interested in you and not in sex particularly.

 

[Zarky]

OP, you should definitely reassure them without being too gushy about it. Do it in an offhand way. "Lots of fun last night, looking forward to next time." Or something like that. Cavalier but mostly reassuring.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

This shouldn't be an issue if you don't like the chick.

If you do, Zarky is right. Just tell her you want to do something else with her and continue to have fun.

The other factor of her withdrawal could be because the sex was bad. lol I don't think that's the case though.