"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Naturally Ripped

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Ever notice how some guys are just naturally very big and muscular, in fact totally ripped even? They're just born that way and don't even have to work out, or if they do lift some weights it's just out of boredom and not enough to explain how buff they are. A small percentage of the population I'm sure, but they're there. They must just have very good genes.

I'm not even sure what my point is. I'm just amazed that some guys can have a great physique without having to work for it I guess. Maybe it will catch up with them later in life, or they'll have to learn to start working out to keep it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Jitterbug

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Mesomorph or on the juice.
 

Fuglydude

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Working in the male entertainment industry, I've definitely seen guys that are similar to what you're talking about. A couple of my buddies (both black Jamaican guys) are similar to that. One's always got a 6 pack, and while not shredded, he's always got great muscle definition and symmetry despite only working out 1-2x a MONTH! That being said he was considerably bigger and leaner when he would train on a regular basis, but just getting by on genetics now.
 

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zekko said:
Ever notice how some guys are just naturally very big and muscular, in fact totally ripped even? They're just born that way and don't even have to work out, or if they do lift some weights it's just out of boredom and not enough to explain how buff they are. A small percentage of the population I'm sure, but they're there. They must just have very good genes.

I'm not even sure what my point is. I'm just amazed that some guys can have a great physique without having to work for it I guess. Maybe it will catch up with them later in life, or they'll have to learn to start working out to keep it.
Manual labor.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Growing up on a farm and working construction when I was younger gave me awesome arms but zero chest or shoulders.
 

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zekko said:
They must just have very good genes...I'm not even sure what my point is.
I don't get your point either.

My coach told me that back before the discussion of genetics was common place in athletic circles, guys simply did not focus on this stuff. They just worked to be the best.

The people who have a tendency to think that others exhibiting an above average skill-level or trait are naturally so tend to be less successful then the people who think such a skill or trait can be possessed through hard work.

Not my rhetorical bullsh1t; studies have shown this to be true.

In fact, one psychologist goes on to say that you should never praise your child for being talented: "Wow, kiddo, you're really good/talented/natural at that." Rather, when your child accomplishes something, the praise should focus around the effort involved: "You worked really hard on that. Good job."

Idea being that "talent-praise" does not reinforce work ethic. A consequence is that when a child sees someone in the future that is better than him, he will chalk it up to that person being even more talented, and give up. And there is always someone better out there.
 
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