"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Naturally calm and low energy...is that a problem?

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So, I'm the kind of guy who doesn't really 'go crazy' in a public sort of way...
I mean, i still get excited about things, but in a situation where everybody else is jumping up and down and pumping there fists in the air I can't help but feel like Larry David and think 'Geez, curb your enthusiasm you guys".

Not really sure if it's possible to change a thing like that, or if I even want to change. My only concern is that I come off as inhibited or whatever.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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yes, it's a problem unless you are alpha, loaded with cash and got mad party skillz, cocaine, etc. and simply pretend to be "low-key".

It's a lack of personality you project to everyone, so yeah, you may only attract quiet girls.
 

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Not really, as long as you don't come off as awkward or introverted. Nothing wrong at all with being a super chill dude.

Just make sure you're not trying to rationalize your flaws by saying this.
 

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Depends on how you come off. If you are a calm, cool, collected, strong silent type kind of guy who goes with the flow and is social and easy to converse with when someone talks to you, that can be very sexy and attractive to women. On the other hand, if you act like you do because you're just a guy with no real personality, that's bad.
 

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Also jumping and pumping fists doesn't make you fun or exciting at all. I dont see how you are gonna take a girl out and pump your fists, nor do I see mature gents do so. he he
 

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Think about how other people would see you as, but do not let it become something you do often, just to see where you think you stand. Then if you feel okay with that then go with it.
 

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PapiChulo said:
yes, it's a problem unless you are alpha, loaded with cash and got mad party skillz, cocaine, etc. and simply pretend to be "low-key".

It's a lack of personality you project to everyone, so yeah, you may only attract quiet girls.
I'm probably one of the most low key people you'd ever meet. I do fine with women, and generally people like me a lot. I think the fact that I'm chill and casual makes people comfortable around me. Probably because I'm not all coked-up, throwing money around, and trying too hard to act cool. My casual personality seems to come off as "genuine" which I am.

Depending on this guy's personality, I don't think it's a problem. It's not necessarily that he has a lack of personality. It's that his emotions aren't shown in the cliche, typical way. Excitement to him isn't "jumping up and down, shouting." it's "whoa, that was kinda cool. Did you see that?"

So, to the original poster, if you're laid back and low key, I think you should embrace it. That's your style. That's where you're natural.
 

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Leporello said:
So, I'm the kind of guy who doesn't really 'go crazy' in a public sort of way...
I mean, i still get excited about things, but in a situation where everybody else is jumping up and down and pumping there fists in the air I can't help but feel like Larry David and think 'Geez, curb your enthusiasm you guys".

Not really sure if it's possible to change a thing like that, or if I even want to change. My only concern is that I come off as inhibited or whatever.
You're probably more of a thinker and probably above average in intelligence. I've always found it very difficult to be one of those "fist pumpers" myself.

I don't think you can be that and still be congruent with your basic nature. Get used to feeling that sense of isolation and develop your strengths according to your natural bent.
 
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