"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warrior74

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So my boy who is natural watched mysteries show and thought it was the nerdiest show ever. Those lord of the rings amulets and "kino escalate" have become staples of our banter. "dood, you better kino escalate <sarcastic grin>"

But he did admit that all of the nerdy stuff that mystery was talking about was the same stuff that he did, he just never thought about it in those terms.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warrior74 said:
So my boy who is natural watched mysteries show and thought it was the nerdiest show ever. Those lord of the rings amulets and "kino escalate" have become staples of our banter. "dood, you better kino escalate <sarcastic grin>"

But he did admit that all of the nerdy stuff that mystery was talking about was the same stuff that he did, he just never thought about it in those terms.
The pickup artistry was created to compete with these kinds of naturals. Naturals will obviously find it super funny and nerdy.

You friend seems like the natural that Style described in his book The Game.
 

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I was thinking about this earlier today though. About naturals and those who learn how to do it. I think that those who learn the methods of pick up will eventually surpass naturals. Similarly to those who are naturally good at fighting, will not be able to beat a black belt who worked for his title. So in the end we might be better off

*sigh* I wish we could all be naturals though
 

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let me break it down playa

Pathgen said:
I was thinking about this earlier today though. About naturals and those who learn how to do it. I think that those who learn the methods of pick up will eventually surpass naturals. Similarly to those who are naturally good at fighting, will not be able to beat a black belt who worked for his title. So in the end we might be better off

*sigh* I wish we could all be naturals though

^^But what you forgetting about naturals, is that not everything came to them right away, even a natural has to learn, its just their frame in life is so different, every natural (and belive you me, Ive met some who could blow your favorite pua guy out of the water) I've ever met they all had 3 things in common.

1. Extermely confident
2. Alpha males
3. Postive aura which gravitates anyone near them

I agree a pua can surpass a natural only when he has those traits mention above, which hence will make him a natural I guess (just look at Neil strauss, he doesn't need "tactics" anymore"

peace
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was thinking about this earlier today though. About naturals and those who learn how to do it. I think that those who learn the methods of pick up will eventually surpass naturals. Similarly to those who are naturally good at fighting, will not be able to beat a black belt who worked for his title. So in the end we might be better off

*sigh* I wish we could all be naturals though


There was a point in a naturals life where he was an "AFC" (as many here like to call it). Many of the ones I know learned their wisdom from persistence and failure which lead them to subconciously learn from their mistakes and sometimes others were fortunate enough to learn from someone with experience in their family, or even a very close friend. Every natural I know has gone through the hardship of trial and error, pain and rejection and that explains much of their experience. Unlike them we need sources like sosuave which is very informative but lacks in the experience department if you don't get up off your ass and do something with yourself.
 

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Well, I kind of agree with your friend on watching that show. I have been labelled a natural already, probably because I didn't know that there was even such thing as a "pick-up-artist" and I don't really know what all the acronyms mean. But, I find it interesting discussion anyways.

What bugs me is when I can blatantly tell who is "trying to pick up girls" in a bar and watching this totally formulaic, rehearsed act go on in front of me with female after female, as if they are on this conveyor belt going from girl to girl. It was really wierd hearing the same line or sequence of lines three or four times in a night. For the longest time I couldn't figure out what was happening with those guys when I went out. I actually thought that it was some type of multi-level-marketing thing they were doing.

So, heres a question: Do PUA's actually go through a mental checklist of items when they are talking to girls? opener [check] response [check] neg hit [check] etc...
 
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I agree. A lot about the game can be communicated on a forum like this or even by watching seduction in action. But if a guy just puts himself in the midst of the action and forces himself to try and fail and try again, he will be able to come up with his own tricks without even knowing about it. I have read some threads on this board and some material from seduction books and realize that I have been engaging in variations of the tricks discussed. You live and learn, you fail and triumph. That is how you become a natural. It takes years to get good at anything in life, so you need to work hard at it and stop trying to use shortcuts.
 

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More Cowbell Please said:
I agree. A lot about the game can be communicated on a forum like this or even by watching seduction in action. But if a guy just puts himself in the midst of the action and forces himself to try and fail and try again, he will be able to come up with his own tricks without even knowing about it. I have read some threads on this board and some material from seduction books and realize that I have been engaging in variations of the tricks discussed. You live and learn, you fail and triumph. That is how you become a natural. It takes years to get good at anything in life, so you need to work hard at it and stop trying to use shortcuts.

Bingo

Neil Strauss didn't become "style" overnight, it takes time, effort, dedication. Something a lof of this NB's don't realize
 
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