"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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National sorority kicks out unattractive members

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http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/25/education/25sorority.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1

Worried that a negative stereotype of the sorority was contributing to a decline in membership that had left its Greek-columned house here half empty, Delta Zeta’s national officers interviewed 35 DePauw members in November, quizzing them about their dedication to recruitment. They judged 23 of the women insufficiently committed and later told them to vacate the sorority house.

The 23 members included every woman who was overweight. They also included the only Korean and Vietnamese members. The dozen students allowed to stay were slender and popular with fraternity men — conventionally pretty women the sorority hoped could attract new recruits. <snip>
I wonder what this says about women. That women do not want to be associated with less attractive women? Of course, it seems to me that the exact opposite is true - that attractive women always seem to have the "fat friend". :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women are competitive with each other, that's for sure. It is all about who is thinner, prettier, more popular, etc. Particularly with sororities. Throw a desirable man in the mix, and you'll get them cutting each other's throats.

The reason for the fat or less attractive friend? To draw more positive attention to themselves.
 

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MatureDJ said:
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/25/education/25sorority.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1



I wonder what this says about women. That women do not want to be associated with less attractive women? Of course, it seems to me that the exact opposite is true - that attractive women always seem to have the "fat friend". :p
They may have a "fat friend" to act as a a kind of reverse wingman ,but that fat friend is quickly discarded when that HOT guy enters the space and gets snared by HB...
The fat friend gets to hang around with the HB for a while initially and have some of the fairy dust fall on her, AND she gets a shot at HBs unsuccessful applicants.

AS RT would say - another feminine social contrivance .
 

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jophil28 said:
They may have a "fat friend" to act as a a kind of reverse wingman ,but that fat friend is quickly discarded when that HOT guy enters the space and gets snared by HB...
The fat friend gets to hang around with the HB for a while initially and have some of the fairy dust fall on her, AND she gets a shot at HBs unsuccessful applicants.

AS RT would say - another feminine social contrivance .
Do you think that the fat friend hangs around hoping that some tag team of men come around such that the wingman in that team would give attention to her?
 

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http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/health/chi-fatapr28,0,125356.story

Massachusetts bill aims to stem discrimination against the overweight

Currently, people can seek protection under the Americans with Disabilities Act, but they must prove their obesity is a disability and, in some cases, that it is caused by physical traits beyond their control...

...If Massachusetts passes the bill, it would join a handful of other states and municipalities with similar laws pertaining to appearance, including Michigan, the District of Columbia, San Francisco and Santa Cruz, Calif., and Madison, Wis.

Such legislation is rare because historically there was little public advocacy for the issue of weight bias. Now, groups such as the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance have become more active.

Best Quote Ever from a Fat Acceptance Bill Sponsor:

"there is a growing number of people who think this should happen" :D
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Same can be said for men too. Would a bunch of athletic guys want to hang around a bunch of math geeks? Rarely would you meet people who are honest about accepting others regardless of their background.

IPalindromeI said:
Women are competitive with each other, that's for sure. It is all about who is thinner, prettier, more popular, etc. Particularly with sororities. Throw a desirable man in the mix, and you'll get them cutting each other's throats.

The reason for the fat or less attractive friend? To draw more positive attention to themselves.
 

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The funniest part about this is the "it's unethical" petition.

What does being against ugly, fat people have to do with ethics?

The public still operates under the assumption that fat is just something that "happens" to you. You do it to yourself, and no it's not hard to lose weight or maintain weight. It's simply not if you have the slightest clue about nutrition and any self control. Is it so much to ask that in your 80+ years on earth that you learn a bit about your body and mind?


Currently, people can seek protection under the Americans with Disabilities Act, but they must prove their obesity is a disability and, in some cases, that it is caused by physical traits beyond their control...
And that stuff about thyroid problems. Pfft. Those thryoid problems are CAUSED by poor diet and being fat. Cause and effect reversed.

It's not discrimination based on looks. It's discrimination based on WEAKNESS.

I don't hang out with STUPID people. Is that discrimination? Is that unethical? Should I be forced to hire the stupid? Most all being fat is mental or psychological weakness.
 

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What is this doing on this forum? Why does any mature man give a shlt what any sorority girls do?
 
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