"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Narcissitic Girl

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What are the signs that you might be hooking up with a narcissistic girl ?

I am with a girl that has broken down numerous times over the month I have known her.

Here is what I noticed so far

Is insane in bed ! When I turn her down for sex she melts down and almost throws tantrums.

She was always on a pedestal and lived in Las Vegas and Nyc. She was a model. She is still one of the most attractive girls Ive ever seen. She is very loud and outgoing when she is out. She almost steals the attention in the room. She has a lot of money and loves to flaunt it and talk about it.

When we talk it is 99 percent about her and how awesome her life is.

She bad mouths my girlfriend non stop.... Even though they have never met and I never spoke about getting into a relationship with this girl.

She got very attached and emotional quick.... has actually used the love word in one month.

She vanishes from contact from time to time... but then texts me 5-10 times in a row when I am busy at work almost demanding an answer.

She bad mouths her partner in their relationship non stop ! Even thought I always change the subject and refuse to take part.

She was recently on a girls vacation and had very little contact with me. She sent tons of provocative pictures... She called me on the last day and was almost in tears because I didnt comment on the pictures she sent.

I have never been involved in anything like this... Most of my hookups start slow... and progress at a nice pace... This almost feels like drag racing. My mind and emotions have been on a roller coaster and when I think about getting off I feel like I am withdrawing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Does she project her narcissism on you? Like maybe when you are making improvements in your life or maybe going to the gym more? I used to date one who liked to say I was vain for going to the gym. I agree with the above poster. It's going to be memorable if you stick around. Prepare for some mental scars if you get emotionally involved.
 

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Sounds like a spoiled brat.
 

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Dear Sprinter,
She Fvucks on demand,hes plenty of Mazooma...And you are unhappy...What Bluddy more do you want?...Oh sure she is not LTR material...just fun...If you put your age on our advice would be better targeted...but in the mean time her Narcissism makes her so easily manipulated...You have your Hand on her steering Wheel,your foot on the accelerator...As my old mate tic tac says..."It will be a short, memorable ride"!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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In honor of the OP'S name..... "run Forrest, run" Unless you can remain unemotional and not get attached, this will end badly. But the crazy one's are great in the sack
 

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samspade said:
Possible BPD with lots of push/pull. Could be trouble. Enjoy the body and ignore the mind/soul if you can handle it. Otherwise, walking away is never a bad move.

I didn't want to say it...because BPD gets brought up a lot on this board. But this may be the case. She could be a BPD, Bipolar, NPD, or all three. But you are dealing with a damaged woman at the very least. That push/pull nonsense will drive you nuts. Get out if you'd like to keep your sanity.
 

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most gals in America are narcissistic, often dark sarcastic twits.
best to just spin plates.
I too would like a LTR. But I just don't believe it is possible in our society any longer than six to eight months.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Scara, I am 34 and she is 36....

Since she has gotten back from this vacation she has been texting me non stop about having a life together and how I complete her.

The push pull really did not start until she went away on this vacation. She was almost no existent. There were no emotional texts, just one word answers and pictures. Since she has been back it has gone back to being crazy.
 
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