"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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so i read about the 9 types of narcissism.

i find nothing wrong with narcissism
everyone should be a narcissist.


hell the people people hurt by narcissism are low-self esteem, or over-trusting people in the first place!!

http://www.psychotherapy.com.au/august00/featart2.html

like the guy who gives his credit card! what an idiot !


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http://www.geocities.com/ResearchTriangle/Campus/4847/


Q. And combinations of just these three traits (narcissism, perfectionism and aggression) give rise to distinct personality types?

A. That is correct.

We consider first:

Dominant Personality Types ..... in which the traits of aggression (A) and/or narcissism (N) are fully expressed. We obtain:

N ..... Narcissistic personality. "The non-aggressive, non-perfectionist". "The self-anointed glory seeker".

A ..... Aggressive personality. Pallid, non-smiling, brusque tyrant. "The arrogant dynamo".

NP ..... Narcissistic - perfectionist personality. Obsessive-compulsive personality. Bovine personality. "Nervous bird" personality. "The quiet achiever".

NA ..... Narcissistic - aggressive personality. Histrionic, hypomanic-depressive personality. "The ambitious predator".

PA ..... Perfectionistic - aggressive personality. Austere, sarcastic type. "Strong silent type". Paranoid personality. "The suspicious manipulator". "Power behind the Throne".

NPA ..... Narcissistic - perfectionistic - aggressive personality. "The loudmouth". Explosive personality. "The overbearing achiever".
i seem to be the "A" altho sometimes i show a bit of N
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Now careful there!

When you read descriptions of various personality disorders, some of the material will invariably strike you as familiar: it will seem that you or someone you know has some of the traits or acts out the described behaviors. That doesn't mean that either of you is actually sick with that disorder. These disorders are extreme distortions of personality in some direction.

I suspect that what you are trying to say that narcissism is okay in healthy doses, not that you want to have narcissistic personality disorder.

:D
 

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Re: Now careful there!

Originally posted by StringShredder
When you read descriptions of various personality disorders, some of the material will invariably strike you as familiar: it will seem that you or someone you know has some of the traits or acts out the described behaviors. That doesn't mean that either of you is actually sick with that disorder. These disorders are extreme distortions of personality in some direction.

I suspect that what you are trying to say that narcissism is okay in healthy doses, not that you want to have narcissistic personality disorder.

:D
the first site isnt even describing disorders, and the second site supports the fact that narcissim in itself isnt a disorder until we reach the line of the extreme, wich is usually distorted anyways, and like i said the victims are the weak who deserve to be walked on.

ya im saying narcissism is great !
 

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True narcissists can love not but their own hand. Be careful how far you take it.:D

... 'course you probably know when you are available ...
... less head games ...
... theoretically you will be able to enjoy your own weak puns ...:p
 

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Originally posted by Donald Kaufman
True narcissists can love not but their own hand. Be careful how far you take it.:D

... 'course you probably know when you are available ...
... less head games ...
... theoretically you will be able to enjoy your own weak puns ...:p
:) im surprised no one else chimes in this great topic. !
what do yall think of narcissism
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i used to act like i was hot s.hit to make myself feel like i was hot s.hit...

now, oddly enough, i don't do anything like that, and i think i am the f.uckin man... probably because i dumped my gf who made me feel like i wasn't good enough.

hm. weird.

seriously, though, i think i am the f.uckin man, even if i have some "flaws"
http://profiles.myspace.com/users/16762197
 

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A real-life narcissicist would be Omarosa on The Apprentice, season. Real narcissists believe that 1. They're the greatest thing since sliced bread, and 2) they don't processes criticism.

So if you tell a narcissist, "you're ugly", he'll just say, "That dude is just jealous of my greatness." you say, "You're great", he'll think "of course I am".

Basically, they don't have a negative feedback mechanism.

Narcissists can be successful in life even though they bug the hell out of everyone else.
 

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how can you tell the difference from a narcissist and someone that's just quiet/paranoid(the type with issues)/strong silent/deep thinkers.....it's funny cause i see those types all the time.
 

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i have this.
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
how can you tell the difference from a narcissist and someone that's just quiet/paranoid(the type with issues)/strong silent/deep thinkers.....it's funny cause i see those types all the time.
if u have time to read the links youll find out that you probably cant, even licensed proffesionals have a hard time getting the exact type, usually just knowing that you are messed up.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by MackJr
A real-life narcissicist would be Omarosa on The Apprentice, season. Real narcissists believe that 1. They're the greatest thing since sliced bread, and 2) they don't processes criticism.

So if you tell a narcissist, "you're ugly", he'll just say, "That dude is just jealous of my greatness." you say, "You're great", he'll think "of course I am".

Basically, they don't have a negative feedback mechanism.

Narcissists can be successful in life even though they bug the hell out of everyone else.
thats me.
 

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here's my revelation : I used to be narcissistc

i think i was an N
and a slight bit of A possibly

but all that is behind me now.

I know a short friend who probably isnt narcissist, but presents some traits of PA. i dont blame him, he gets put down by my other friends every so often, often of his height.

narcissism and all other mumbo jumbo disorders are probably the byproducts of our environment.
 

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I used to be narcistic. Now I'm not. I came here to get it back :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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