"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Napoleon Hill, Brian Tracy, and the LOA
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Lets all imagine checks coming it the mail every day instead of bills. Just like David Schirmer did.
Ask the universe every day and see what happens.
If you do this enough you should be able to give up your job.
First things first. Imagine money and ABUNDANCE (this includes happiness, love, laughter, hot chicks everywhere you look, good times with friends, etc.) just flowing into your life. Start imagining money (and abundance) coming to you in weird, fun ways. Do that for a few months and notice if anything has changed or not.wolf116 said:
Put it to the test for yourself in your own life.
Or don't.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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A quite unnecessary statement. Brother Reset is giving invaluable and positive help to us brothers and you want to sh!t on it with this?Master Bates said:
I think you should reprioritize brother.
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No. This pessimistic and vile perspective will do nothing but sully yoiur vision of what abundance the future, YOUR future, is available for the taking.wolf116 said:
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Oh give me a f'n break. It's hard to take someone seriously when they preface their post by admitting they believe their thought waves alter the universe and external events. When advice is coming from a mindset and core set of beliefs like that, it's of little value and help to me.KarmaSutra said:
Lol, I missed your acid comment. I wasn't actually giving you advice, or expecting you personally to get anything from my posts. I didn't "admit" anything. I'm not ashamed of my beliefs. I'm quite happy with them.Master Bates said:
What is really interesting to me is the amount of energy people put towards something they have no interest in.
Have you even read my posts in this thread? I have already done all this.reset said:
I have a book filled with the cr@p 'the secret' preaches. Drawings, positive affirmations, things I am thankful for etc. I would go through that book morning and night for months.
I was at bad point in my life and my intelligence was compromised.
I'm very ashamed at myself for being so gullible.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Missed this post. I have gotten parking spaces by wanting them, green lights the whole way, that sort of thing. It's fun. Again, you really should investigate this stuff for yourself-- whatver experiences I share probably won't have much relevance to you. So if it's something you're interested in, give it a shot (or don't).wolf116 said:
But it's not really something I worry too much about. This is like level one of an infinite level game. If I don't get the parking space, so what? But yeah there have been times when I've wanted a space in a certain area and that moment I get it. But I don't keep track. Other things happen that blow my mind that make parking spaces seem pretty mundane.
Wolf I'm basically saying, try it for yourself. Or don't.
Yeah I've read your posts, maybe I missed that one. Basically, what you expect to happen, or what you focus on most of the time, is what's going to show up in your life.wolf116 said:
Maybe the whole time you thought it was BS. That's pretty common.
And hey, maybe it's just not the sort of thing you can get much from at this point in your life. That's cool. Move on to something else then.
And for crying out loud, don't beat yourself up. You tried something out. Life is meant to be explored and experienced. What's wrong with that? No one's keeping score.
I have honestly tried this stuff, fully believing in its worth.
If you say you can get green lights more then the average person. I challenge yo to run a scientific test.
Every time you drive to work count the green lights you get, average you score over 100. Then after you reach 100, think red lights and record your results. If you show a substantial difference you will win a noble prise.
In fact why don't you apply it to gambling.
So you say you tried it, it didn't work. Cool. Then let it go. I can't convince you of jack shyt, don't really care to.
Drop the LOA thing if it isn't making you happy, and try something that does.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
So, you can basically have an abundance mentality, or a scarcity mentality. Your choice.
One thing I WOULD advise though, is to move away from just MONEY. Abundance mentality includes everything.
Actually, I was a pretty hardcore atheist for many years. I spent most of my time debating religious people, I was an active skeptic, read all the atheist literature, was really into James Randi, penn & teller, carl sagan, all the "debunking" stuff. It was really good for me. Spent many many years struggling and investigating these topics, so I didn't refuse. I embraced skepticism. Still have a healthy respect for it.wolf116 said:
Doing that helped me move away from my religious upbringing. And when I let all that stuff go, and rejected it, it was easier for me to embrace the deeper things. It started with taoism, which I saw as a spiritual belief I could maintain and still be atheist, and it's basically picked up from there.
It's been a long road and it's full of questioning. I still question. I question LOA. I try to make sense of what I experience in light of my previous belief that it couldn't be possible. That in itself has been interesting. I'm always investigating.
So, I've been on this little "quest" for years brother.
As for money, I have never cared for it. I'm a poor student and I'm happier that way. The secret is focused on materialism because it will make the most sales that way.
All of the wishes I made when using the secret were based on self improvement.
Things like overcoming my dyslexia and ADD, shyness and weakness (body and mind).
Materialism, is a word, a label, for one aspect of abundance. Abundance is "lots of stuff" and there is "lots of stuff" in the universe. Thoughts, nature, trees, hot chicks, cars, crickets, movies, water, empty space. There's an abundance of abundance. The meaning is whatever meaning we give to it.
Keep focusing on improvement. That's all you can do. You'll never have it all figured out. I will never have it all figured out. But if you keep focusing on ways to improve your life, which you are doing, then you have a better chance of getting to that "place", whatever it may be to you.
Just move forward. If you find something that says to you "look into this" then go that route. If you find something that says "this is crap, ignore it" then do that.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.