"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Name me one technique that gives me power over women.

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There is this saying in the community that pickup gave you power.

Name one technique that gives me power over women.

What I mean is: Which technique, ie, what you do or say right now, gives you power over women. The question stems from realizing that women by their sheer existance get attention and sex. I am asking for a technique that offers the same power with the same effort being put in.

I am not asking this for the record, I don't want you to list every useless fact that comes to mind, but to mention something to use against women next time who display their female power against you. For instance it is very easy to be seen as lower value by women. It seems as if they were waiting for something they could see as lower value in you.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What kind of power do you want? I'm assuming you mean "leverage" in a relationship.

There are three things that will give you power:

1. Having something she finds valuable (status, money, looks, utility, etc.)

2. Making her BELIEVE you have something she finds valuable (see #1)

3. Fear (Bio clock, you are the best she can do, etc.)
 

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Jair213 is 100% correct. Indifference gives you total and complete control. Once you start caring, if you're not careful, you end up snowballing out of control for the woman and then it's too late.
 

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Jair213 is 100% correct. Indifference gives you total and complete control. Once you start caring, if you're not careful, you end up snowballing out of control for the woman and then it's too late.
This is a half-truth. "Indifference" does not give you power over a woman. It just keeps her from having power over you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PlayHer Man said:
This is a half-truth. "Indifference" does not give you power over a woman. It just keeps her from having power over you.
I was assuming the OP is confident enough in himself and his abilities to court a woman successfully. If the girl is into him, and he shows indifference to most situations, he will almost always gain power over her.
 

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I think indifference is good but overrated as a technique for most guys. With all her options today, indifference only works for very high value men.

I'm not saying one should ever be needy. But expecting that an average guy would get laid from indifference? I doubt it.

PlayHerMan is also correct. It's more for you than her.

I'd love to hear Zekko's thoughts on this one.
 
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What I mean is: Which technique, ie, what you do or say right now, gives you power over women. The question stems from realizing that women by their sheer existance get attention and sex. I am asking for a technique that offers the same outcome with the same effort being put in. Indifference requires huge efforts.


Indifference or in other words: "Forcing yourself to not react" does not give you power over women.

"Having better women." is no technique.

"Having something she finds valuable" is no technique.

"Making her BELIEVE you have something she finds valuable (see #1)" is no technique.

"Bio clock, you are the best she can do" Those are good.

Name others.

I am not asking this for the record, I don't want you to list every useless fact that comes to mind, but to mention something to use against women next time who display their female power against you. For instance it is very easy to be seen as lower value by women. It seems as if they were waiting for something they could see as lower value in you. If they perceive you as lower value they won't care about your indifference.
 

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i've got this secret formula for a pill. all you have to do is take the pill, and all women will prostrate themselves for you, nude. What a flake.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Philippe Schlichting said:
What I mean is: Which technique, ie, what you do or say right now, gives you power over women. The question stems from realizing that women by their sheer existance get attention and sex. I am asking for a technique that offers the same outcome with the same effort being put in. Indifference requires huge efforts.


Indifference or in other words: "Forcing yourself to not react" does not give you power over women.

"Having better women." is no technique.

"Having something she finds valuable" is no technique.

"Making her BELIEVE you have something she finds valuable (see #1)" is no technique.

"Bio clock, you are the best she can do" Those are good.

Name others.
You should define better what you are looking for, what you mean by "technique"? something like "ground and pound" to make sure she cannot piss you off or leave?

Some old man is pretty good in backhands but I guess those are not the "techniques" we are looking for.
 
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Who Dares Win said:
You should define better what you are looking for, what you mean by "technique"? something like "ground and pound" to make sure she cannot piss you off or leave?

Some old man is pretty good in backhands but I guess those are not the "techniques" we are looking for.
I overheard that statement.
 

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The technique to plow forward to the next girl, regardless of disinterest, ṣhit tests, and dismissal. Stop caring.
 
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VladPatton said:
The technique to plow forward to the next girl, regardless of disinterest, ṣhit tests, and dismissal. Stop caring.
That is no power. If you leave, all you do in her eyes is give up. Power is related to how others perceive you.
 

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Philippe Schlichting said:
That is no power. If you leave, all you do in her eyes is give up. Power is related to how others perceive you.
The only power we have is to better ourselves , and that includes dropping useless women...what do you wanna do? Win her over? I say fvck that, and screw her best friend lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Philippe Schlichting said:
There is this saying in the community that pickup gave you power.

Name one technique that gives me power over women.

What I mean is: Which technique, ie, what you do or say right now, gives you power over women. The question stems from realizing that women by their sheer existance get attention and sex. I am asking for a technique that offers the same power with the same effort being put in.

I am not asking this for the record, I don't want you to list every useless fact that comes to mind, but to mention something to use against women next time who display their female power against you. For instance it is very easy to be seen as lower value by women. It seems as if they were waiting for something they could see as lower value in you.
being high masculine man/strong give you power over woman , most women get blinded by highly masculine men and strength . that is why they go after gangsters , she cant help but her animal side push her to breed with you .
 

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Honestly, I think she has to be interested in you to give power to you.

Think about it, if some big, muscled, aggressive dude came up to you and told you to clean his shoes, you would probably check the possibility that he would deck you in the face for saying no. If he was a skinny shrimp, I doubt you would worry about that happening.

PlayHer Man said:
1. Having something she finds valuable (status, money, looks, utility, etc.)
Got money? Financial Power.
Got looks? Sexual Power.
Got utility? Useful Power.
Got personality? Social Power.
 

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You want techniques? Buy The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. There's no one way but if you pay attention to her and act accordingl, you should be able to start developing succesful seductions *through technique*
 

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Fly By Night said:
Honestly, I think she has to be interested in you to give power to you.

Think about it, if some big, muscled, aggressive dude came up to you and told you to clean his shoes, you would probably check the possibility that he would deck you in the face for saying no. If he was a skinny shrimp, I doubt you would worry about that happening.


Got money? Financial Power.
Got looks? Sexual Power.
Got utility? Useful Power.
Got personality? Social Power.
Although I agree these types of power is essential in getting hot/good women , but the OP asking of personal traits that may give you power over her , some poeple on PUA forums including DJ dont want to believe money can get women , may be they are too lazy to get money .
 

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Ok... I would have to say having sex with a woman will give you power over her, :p because you now have the power to tell other people she was "easy" or "she has a nasty wart down there."

There's your technique. :l
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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